Ex bf living a few doors down

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I am happily married with 2dc and we've recently rented a gorgeous family home which is perfect for us.

I've just looked out of my window to see my ex who I was with prior to dh who I was totally besotted with although it was a very on off thing for 4 years

He's living 3 doors down

My dh knows the history with the ex but doubt he would recognise him but there was a question mark over my feelings when I met dh so he wouldn't be happy with the situation but my question is should I tell my dh?

I'm not bothered by the fact the ex is living nearby I have no feelings anymore it was years ago but I feel it might put a strain on my marriage when we are in such a good place.

It's been quite a shock (I'm from 100 miles away and it just happened that ex and dh are from the same city not linked)

I've even said hi to ex's new wife/gf before realising

Wise mumsnetters help!

Mmmmm tricky one! If DH found out at a later date and you hadn't been upfront it would look extremely fishy, and DH will be hurt and angry.

I think you should face the initial upset this announcement will make and just be honest and tell him.

Good luck!

Definitely tell him, in an omg guess who I saw today way.

Maybe throw in that he's looking really aged/rough etc..

I know I need to and I will but it's just going to bring back the past which took us a long time to get over.

I wish my eyes would just unsee him ??

My ex hasn't seen me yet so that's another hurdle to cross!