How has your dp/h behavior affected your relationships with others?

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So I think I have realised the impact his EA/VA is having on other relationships. Especially how I react to certain types of people who talk to me/ treat me in a similar way. In particular at work. But I don't really know what to do now I have seen this, help?

I don't really understand your post, sorry.

My dp's behaviour hasn't affected my relationships with others at all. Except for one guy who I used to fancy when I was single - I used to be quite keen for his attention, whilst since being with my dp I'm obviously not interested any more.

That's the only example I can think of.

It sounds like your dp is being aggressive and/or rude to other people that you know. If he is verbally aggressive, is there any reason why you don't simply leave?

To answer your question in a straightforward way, my DH has enhanced many of my relationships, particularly with family. He is very easy going and tolerant, where I can be more 'nippy' and his attitude has rubbed off on me to some extent, so I am now more prepared to let things slide, for an easy life.

My DH encourages me to spend time with family and friends, and I encourage him to do the same.

It isn't a healthy relationship if your partner is restricting or spoiling your friendships.

Someone will be along in a minute with good advice I hope.

My DH helps me see different aspects of my relationships. Points out positive things I've achieved on even a bad day. He encourages me to catch up with friends, welcomes them into our home and supports me with difficult situations.
My ex (EA) belittled my friends. Made them feel uncomfortable if the visited, reminded me of any vaguely negative thing I'd ever voiced about friends and told me I'd lose them because I wasn't the sort of friend x/ y needed. He also would quiz me for every detail if I met one / went out and complained if I spent more than a few minutes chatting on the phone. Worst he'd pose as me online to try to 'check out' whatever I'd said about catching up with them.

I think I see what you mean - it's my dad in my case - when someone in authority is angry with me, it turns me into a frightened, wibbly little girl. Has caused problems at work; I am quite assertive generally.

Is that the sort of thing?

Of course, I moved out when i was 17, are you still with this partner?