Dumplings Where Are You Now?

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Almost exactly five years XH left home.

A sad time but the start of a new journey. Despite all of the trouble it caused and trauma, I'm so glad I'm no longer with him.

Anyway … soon after that I found this place and met a lot of lovely, friendly and helpful girls in a similar position. And we became the Dumplings. We chatted and we chatted. And despite the awful stories and circumstances, we had some amazing fun. Thread after thread. And funny meet ups.

Some of us are still in touch. Others have gone … or are perhaps still lurking?

Anyway, thanks everyone for the fabulous times that we had .. I have never laughed so much, ever. Just sniggered again at the thought of the mummy tattoo.

Would love to know how everyone is doing .

Hello!
Teaandcakeplease here with a newish nn. 5 years for me too now. Single, working, kids now 5 and 7 in school. But happy.

Hello Teaandcake.

I'm happy and I know it too...

Our old threads: thread 4

thread 3

thread 2

thread 1

I'm going to read these again when I have time!

Really hope some other dumplings come along.

Hello ladies,
Sov here. Always lurking
Kids are all in full time school now eldest ds in senior school
Am working nights, have a lovely bloke who I am marrying on 25th April 2015, TWUNT is no longer in our lives, doesn't see the kids or pay for them but still lives a 10 min walk away and goes around like he's fan-bloody- tastic. Oh and the OW is no longer in the picture from the state I was in all that time ago I am now loving life without him and often wonder what the hell I was thinking!!
So glad I had you wonderful lot to get me through my darkest days, for that I will be eternally grateful xx

Hello, Fellow Dumplings,

Used to be ACityDoll. Still here, mostly lurking, after 4 years.

Retired and enjoying life to the fullest! Have been with a new chap for the past 2 years (have known him longer as an acquaintance) who has loved and cherished me and helped me through some dark days (as you wonderful lot of Dumplings have done).

XH married his OW last year. In spite of his initial denials about an affair, I felt totally vindicated for filing for divorce when I heard the news of the wedding. But then XH did not know that through the power of Mumsnet, I was very familiar with The Cheaters' Script!

I will not lie - there have been difficult days e.g. birthdays, special family events etc. but having been together for 37 years, it will always be hard.

Take care and look after yourselves.

Hello fellow dumplings...

Lovely to hear your updates.

I can confirm that Bald Eagle remains with Clotted Cream. DCs see very little of XH although they still get on well with him.

After much DC trauma all has settled down and they are doing well. No current DP here but I'm working on it .

Hey formerly Gettingeasier here

Yes I celebrated my five years last Friday with a big group of girlfriends who I had over for a glass of wine or two. I didn't mention the occasion until well into the evening and they were a bit askance at my jollity about the whole thing !

I was thinking about the Dumpling threads the other day and how amazing and supportive they were through such hard times. Then,as now, all my friends were happily (ish) married and with the best will in the world they didnt understand . In fact that remains an abiding bug bear that I am one of the only single people I know plus those I do know are looking for a man !

XH is married to his OW now, due to the age of the DC contact is very rare between us and I don't think about him very often. The only thing that still gets to me is the split on birthdays etc, DS is shortly to be 18 and instead of a big family party everything gets chopped up , toing and froing between us. Hey ho not the end of the world !

Glad to hear things are good with my old dumpling friends

Hello Getting.

I used to love your morning posts .

Hello another Dumpling here from 5 years ago but under a different name, more of a lurker these days but we did have some giggles didn't we

We did.

It was good that we laughed despite the troubles. I don't know who you are cos of the name change.....

Waves to all , got a shout from Happy to check in here. Reading the updates brought back happy memories of our threads & meet. OMG Happy you made me laugh by reminding me of the Mammy tattoo .

Anyway, its 6yrs for me now but 5 since full separation as I spend a yr caught up in the fog of xh's lies & insanity. Dc's & I have a v happy peaceful life now, no contact with xh. I went back to college to retrain 6 yrs ago & it seems v appropriate to be posting here tonight as today I had my 2nd graduation. I work as psychotherapist now & have spent the past few yrs helping others find their way out of the darkness.

I haven't lost my sense of humour or sprinkling of madness though & still enjoy a good laugh. Am in a relationship with a lovely man but live separately & have no intention of changing that for now or running back up the aisle again!! Look forward to hearing from others. X

Starting I was laughing at you making me feel better when a guy knocked me back in one of the older threads yesterday

Your stories were brilliant.

Omg I remember the mammy tattoo. I was Loobie back then and dating the gate shaver that one didn't work out but I'm happy now with a lovely Dp although still living alone and independent which suits me

I remember you mowing the lawn in your heels startingovernow !

Wow very impressed at your finishing training as a psychotherapist . I'm working but it's dull stuff, never found the oomph to follow my dream but hey ho never say never.

I went by a variety of names back then ..3weeksandcounting stuck for a while but not sure what I was 5 years ago. Great timely post as it was also 5 years ago this week for me.

I was more of a lurker on the dumplings thread but when I posted I got amazing support. The thread was a huge support though even without me posting much as we were all going through and feeling the same awful things. It help so much and yes made me laugh lots too-a rarity in those dark days at the beginning!

I found out I was pregnant just after H left and this week 5 years ago I went to the doctors seeking a termination as I couldn't deal with everything that was going on. The doctor told me not to rush into any decisions (I thought I had already made up my mind). But she refused to book an appointment for me there and then.

I thank her in my head every day. My DS is now 4 and had just started school and he, DD and I are a very happy unit.

I met someone 2.5 years ago ( after lots of counselling) he is lovely, functional , respectful , great with the kids and we are very happy. Location an issue so it's a bit of a long distance relationship which brings it's own challenges but especially the relationship is very good.

Anyway it's great to hear that you have gone on to do some great things, thinking about where we all were around this time 5 years ago.

Hurrah for the dumplings!

I was makkapakkamoo I left dv XP 5 years ago next month and sure I was with you!

Just getting a chance to catch up again now, lovely reading the updates.

Lol Don'tStep the thread was great, we kept each other going during those dark days

Purple/Loobie lovely to hear you are happy again now x

Coming yes it often flashes into my head about mowing the lawn with high heels but saying that I am still prone to turning up on the rugby or soccer pitch in heels

Seth, I am so happy to hear your update, such a beautiful & moving story x

Getting, lovely to hear from you again X

Happy big waves & thx to you for starting this update X

Anewdoll, I am so happy to hear that you have found love again X

Soverign that is so exciting that you are getting married again. I wish you every happiness in the world & glad you found a good one. X