I had a thread here a couple of 3 weeks back. I've left abusive H, don't know how to link sorry.
Anyhow haven't gone back but the practicalities of being separated are now being used by H to emotionally beat me with, now he can't physically get his hands on me.
Social care have done an assessment and have agreed H can have access to DC's Sat & Sun in our home, supervised by his sister & me. I agreed.
He has used that time to try win me back, promising the world, to calling me weak & getting arsey about money saying he will offer me 70/30 of the proceeds of house. He has bought a car with our savings. Now he is saying he will never agree to sell the house (I am looking for rented as it still feels like he is in control with me living in the marital home, I want my own front door). He has also tried to feel me up during this time whilst his sister is outside having a fag/on the phone.
I'm still trying to deal with the fall out of the last sexual assault (it turns out he ruptured an old birth injury), grieve for my marriage, support 3 traumatised dcs , work, and try to manage H's mood swings. I have contacted police today to discuss getting H to leave after agreed contact times, they were no help, he farts around using the dc's to stop him leaving. My family want me to divorce him but I'm 3 weeks in!!! It's too soon, I'm not ready & I'm exhausted. Anyone have any similar experience? Not helping that financially it's very tight so I don't have the resources to get solicitors etc involved.