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was this a selfish response?

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3nonblondeboys80 · 15/10/2014 15:10

So I have had to have a biopsy recently for a skin condition. Also a colonscopy where bioposies were take. Dh behaved quite badly re colonoscopy. He refused to take time off work but worked from home instead. Despie knowing that I shouldn't be responsible for young children following procedure. When he came to collect me he decided to go get a blood test and pretty much left me chasing round blood test department after toddler despite having been sedated. Between having the bioposies and getting the results his mum was diagnosed with a very curable form of cancer.
So he had said very little about my bioposies whilst I was waiting go have them. When he did ask I said that the doctors performing the bioposies were confident all was ok.
His response was "thats a relieve I couldn't with both of you having cancer"
I can't help feeling this was a selfish response especially as I hadn't had proper all clear at this stage.
perspective appreciated please

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cailindana · 15/10/2014 15:14

Nonblonde you've posted about this dickhead before. He's a dickhead.

Hoppinggreen · 15/10/2014 16:42

Yes it was a selfish response but he's a selfish arse so it's not unexpected.

Squidstirfry · 15/10/2014 17:01

Arsehole.

MrsHathaway · 15/10/2014 17:05

"It's not about you."

I'm sorry he's being completely unsupportive. It doesn't sound like you have any higher expectations of him either.

I hope you soon get the all clear.

Jan45 · 15/10/2014 17:06

His WHOLE demeanour is bloody awful and yes, incredibly selfish.

M00nUnit · 15/10/2014 17:24

Wow that's shocking. I'd be really upset if someone said that to me in response to finding out I don't have cancer. Glad you're ok but I'm really sorry to hear about your selfish DH.

3nonblondeboys80 · 15/10/2014 23:07

I just feel that everything is all about him.

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3nonblondeboys80 · 15/10/2014 23:08

thank you for replies. Need to sort this.

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vodkanchocolate · 15/10/2014 23:31

Hi, personally find his attitude appalling. Has he always been this way? x

3nonblondeboys80 · 15/10/2014 23:42

no it is just since unplanned ds3 was born. Sometimes things are good than something happens and I just can't believe h8w selfish he is.

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