His girlfriend has told him the baby can't be his

[zia11]

Hello
I am in a really difficult position right now and I just feel lost and feel like its only going to get worse. I am 18 25 weeks pregnant, I have financial support but no family support in terms of emotional support. I have mental heath issues too and I am just so scared this is going to get worse.

So I fell pregnant from someone I was casually dating and it turned out it didn't work out. He got back with his ex girlfriend and told me to leave him alone despite being pregnant. He threatened me a lot told me to kill myself and the baby but I could deal with it.

We stopped talking for 2 months and he called me the other day out of the blue and asked me when I was due etc I said my due date and he said ok and then he wanted to see scan pics bump pics etc because he didn't believe I was pregnant. Well I thought I had nothing to hide as I am pregnant so I did send him bump and scan pictures because I want him to be involved i guess i just wanted his emotional support in someway.

Anyway he then after that continued telling me I was a liar. I was then getting messages off random men (texts) telling me I am a homewrecker. I assumed they had something to do with him so I messaged him and he said that it wasn't him as he hadn't gave my number too anyone, he then continued to say that to stop telling him about my baby because his girlfriends worked out its not his baby (she thinks I should be 23 weeks because they haven't added the extra 2 weeks on for lmp) so I explained this and he just laughed at me told me that its not his im too far along for it to be his.

Now he has basically told me he hopes I get run over and has said "this isn't going to turn out very good for you" I don't know if I should take that as a threat or not? I just don't know what I am supposed to do, I am so confused and just feel like I need his support.

You posted about this the other day?

It's a threat and should be treated as such. This person sounds dangerous, unstable and has to be nipped in the bud. Drop all contact with him or anyone you think may be connected to him. You and your baby deserve better than to have someone like this involved in your life. He is certainly not going to provide emotional support. He's doing the polar opposite and creating distress.

Womens Aid 0808 2000 247 are a good source of advice for female victims of male abuse. I would also report him to the police DV unit for the harassment. Get that knocked on the head.

Good luck

Was it you that posted last week about this?
At the end of the day it's clear this guy doesn't want to be involved. Go NC and concentrate on getting ready for the new arrival. Ignore his texts, he's winding you up and stressing you out.
He isn't going to give you any emotional support by the sound of it and i think you need to cut all ties.

Call the police if he threatens you again.

And stay far, far away with your baby.

He is behaving appallingly. Thank your lucky stars that you are not in a relationship with him.

I would suggest you do the following:

Keep the texts.

Call the police if he threatens you.

Do not contact him again.

Do not put his name on the birth certificate.

Contact the CSA to arrange financial support once you have registered the child's birth.

Good luck.

Yes the police should be giving him a stern talking to. Please let them know your ex is threatening you. They will take it VERY seriously.

Meanwhile, block him and his friends on all social media. Get his number blocked on your phone.

After the baby is born he can do as many DNA tests as he wants, but you can't prove its his until after its born so stop wasting your breath. He and his girlfriend both sound about 12, and they're bullies to boot. He is in no way shape or form fit to be a father anyway.

Your midwife should be able to point you towards teen pregnancy support services in your area. There could be one where you get together with other young expectant mums so you will build up a network of pals who are going through the same stuff. Also in some areas there are parentcraft lessons specially for teens. Definately worth asking about.

Keep any evidence text wise. Report any threats or harassment to police.

I am so confused and just feel like I need his support.

You do not need this man's support. He threatened you, said terrible, unforgivable things about you and your baby and clearly has no interest in being a father. You need him to be as far away from you and your baby as possible.

You need to find other sources of support instead - family, friends, your midwife and the services she can point you towards.

Call the police and report it. He has threatened you. They will take action. Call them on 101 today. X

Don't ever, ever contact this man again. He is never going to give you any kind of emotional support. He may well harm you, and your baby in emotional or physical ways. I have the utmost sympathy for what you're going through. You will get through this on your own - you will. Take one day at a time. DEFINITELY go to women's aid. Whatever you do, don't contact that awful man again. Life's hard enough without you going adding to your troubles. If this is his attitude, you would be best staying away from him for your baby's sake as well.

You won't get any support from him. Stop hoping and looking for it.

Concentrate on yourself. Once baby is born the new CSA and a DNA test will prove for once and all it is his.

Even then expect nothing from him.