Snipy, snarky, tired and grumpy.

[KarineAimee]

DH and I are tired. He is a teacher, and it's getting close to half term. I have long term Mental Health diffs, I was successfully working part-time but financially this was difficult so have just gone back up to full-time. We are both tired.

We just had a silly snarky argument which I'm pretty sure wouldn't have happened if either of us had any energy at all. We are generally very supportive of each other but tonight I am wishing I lived alone. So my question is, do any of you have any wisdom on how to live with another person when time and energy is low?

I fear the answer may be that there is no solution and we just need to roll with it. But it's only Tuesday...

Well it's one in the morning and my husband is beside me snoring away and I am safe at home and glad.
What about thinking before you speak and counting your blessings?
All nastyness towards others diminishes us. You are an adult so you CAN control your mouth.
When you know that you are tired and so is your DH why not put the 50 greatest love songs on Utube and listen to them. It might help you recapture the feelings that you had when you first met your DH.
All married couples wish they could be alone sometimes, but think of the actual reality. My friend's husband collapsed and died a few weeks ago. She wishes with all her heart that she had said some kind words to him before he left for his run. But she didn't.
It costs nothing to be nice. Angry words lead to raised blood pressure and unhappiness. Life is too short! Have a Gin and Tonic as well. Xx

I work on the basis of 'apologising in advance'. If I'm tetchy, tired, anxious or whatever I tell whoever needs to know that I'm below par and sorry if I'm not my usual self. Might also include telling them what I need to get back to normal.... more sleep, food, time alone, a hot bath and a cuppa, TLC etc I still try to make the effort but at least others know it's not them causing the upset. I'll also make the effort to make it up to them when the crisis lifts.

karine we all have those silly arguments when we are tired.I agree with cog as i always apologize to my kids if im tired or unwell.Tues i had to take her to her 1st job before 8 am and was not impressed she was looking for clothes at 7am when she couldve done it while i was working 11 till 11 the day before.!!
Just wonder if you could cut any luxuries and still work part time ?we have a very basic life especially since DH had a major heart attack.we dont have the lastest gadgets and we dont mind..your health is more important.

Thanks guys, good advice all. We ended the evening talking about it and with a hug, so all's well that ends well just have to get through the rest of the week now

whatisfortea - yes, we might have to go back to that, but we've only been married 3 months and I'm only 2 1/2 weeks in to the full time working so I'm trying to give it longer to see if things settle down.

Thank you again.