hit by a train....

[perrysands]

Hi All

My amazing, caring supportive DH , has been messaging multiple other woman, sexual messages & he is signed up to multiple casual sex sites for the whole time we have been together (Ten years)

I am floored ,I never had any indication of this, he is not glued to this phone any more than normal ,he doesnt mind me using it, we share the PC

We do almost 50/50 housework childcare. We are a team or that is what we would call us.
We spend loads of time together and hardly ever argue, sex life is really good too.

Up to now I could honestly say this was the best relationship I have ever had, and I have been around a while.

He does not know I know yet as I am trying to get all my ducks in a row first.

so my question is seriously WTF is he a psychopath as he has never given me any outward reason to think he is doing this???

"no man or woman for that matter has the urge to have sex so desperately that they are prepared to risk everything for a sexual thrill,"

But they do. Some people are risk-takers that have to be doing something dicey on the side. Doesn't have to be sexual of course. Respectable bank tellers going in for a bit of petty theft. 'Nice' old ladies sending poison pen letters (or trolling on Twitter).

Thanks all,It has given me some answers here ,I am going to get my evidence and hand him his arse on a plate.

I love him to the moon and back but don't and won't live like this,the trust is gone and can never be gotten back ever. I would crawl over red hot coal before I live like this.

Perry can I just ask, was he a submissive sort of man? Did he start arguments? Did he get pissed off at you sometimes?

I have a theory that people who do things like this behind the backs of those they love are acting out subconscious ways to harm their loved one. Like a subtle way of demonstrating some sort of resentment.

Unusually kind, peaceful people can sometimes be like this.

Why do some men do this ..... Hope you've managed to get some to support

I have always picked up on a slight undertooan of resentment ,I am younger ,better job,more friends but I never paid much head to it.

He will come out better than me he will 100% get to keep his family mil fil ....I won't and I have no RL family or friends I would talk to about this