How do we go about finding a marriage guidance counsellor?

[tricot39]

DH isn't keen but I think we need some outside help to break old patterns of poor communication. Trouble is that it's not like we can ask around for recommendations without revealing our troubles! I wouldn't trust the "yellow pages" approach in other areas of life, so how on earth do we find someone good/skilled?

I had this dilemma a year ago and a wise friend pointed me in the direction of Human Givens counselling. It was the best thing we could ever have done, and it only took a handful of sessions to get back on track.

Google to find out more and locate one in your area

Relate?

If DH is not keen I think, even if you find one, you might struggle to get much out of it. Successful counselling requires everyone to participate fully, enthusiastically, honestly and in a spirit of being prepared to change. Half-hearted achieves nothing.

What does 'poor communication' actually look like?

BACP

Ergo That's more advice than the OP requested. Sometimes people come round during the first session or two. Sometimes not.

I answered what I saw as the subtext. She thinks they need help, he's not keen and there are 'patterns of poor communication'... which suggests a fairly long-standing problem of one person either not listening or not taking the other seriously.

Cognito Length of time the problem has been going on isn't relevant to whether or not counselling will help in these circumstances. Answering what you see as a sub-text is undermining the poster's ability to work out her own solution because it suggests that she isn't capable of forming her own questions.