I don't know how to talk to my dh about problems

[carriewintermeadow]

I'm struggling in our relationship at the moment. I don't feel like being intimate at all. I'm taking ADs, which are affecting my ability to climax. I'm 50, not menopausal as such yet, but possibly my hormones are part of the problem. I'm feeling very low, we are struggling as dh is out of work and financially we are not coping - we can't pay the mortgage and are trying to sell the house. Dh is not helping cut back financially, still wanting to keep BT View and broadband and critical illness insurance and insurance to cover the mortgage if one of us dies.

I'm finding the situation too stressful and struggle to go to sleep at night. I can't talk to him about it. I sound like I'm nagging and he just shuts up or acts as if I'm having a go at him instead of just trying to sensibly deal with our finances.

I don't know how to tell him how I feel. I don't want to split up, I think I still love him.

We never kiss or cuddle unless it's leading up to sex, I miss that. How can I tell him that I want that but not sex?

This is just not how I thought I would be spending my life We like different things.

It's well worth talking to one of the debt advisor free companies like the money advice service or similar, often banks / mortgage / utility companies that are less than helpful when dealt with directly, will come to an easier agreement with you when using one of the advisory groups. But you shouldn't have to pay for assistance with it, if any debt company offers to help but wants to charge you for it, walk away and deal with one that doesn't as they take more off you that paying the debts would! I dealt with the money advise service, the one who has all those TV ads that say Talk to MA, and they were brilliant, and mind of the advice or support cost me a penny, they even did all the calks do I didn't have to pay the phone bills.

As to dealing with less than supportive partner, you may just need to get brave and have those conversations, yes it's hard when you're bit used to doing so, but without support you're likely to get more anxious and depressed, so you need to talk to him. Sending you courage and strength to do so x