Friendless... Oops

[AmyDeez]

Hi all, I'm new here so redirect me if this in the wrong place! I will sum my story up

So in 2012 I moved to cornwall, 300 miles from my friends and family, to live with my OH and his family. I left behind work colleagues and friends who I had known for years. I made new friends at my new workplace, but I fell pregnant and had my first son in April 2013, and because my workplace was in Devon I lost contact with a lot of people.
Shortly after I had my son I had a pulmonary embolism and collapsed. The treatments for this caused my birth control to fail and I fell pregnant again, and had another boy in May 2014. While I was pregnant the second time I was ill because of the PE and couldn't go out, and I didn't return to work, so I lost contact with basically everyone except my parents, sisters, OH and his family.
I'm all better now, healthier than ever, but I now find myself 300 miles away from home with a 17 month old and a 5 month old, and no friends. I don't have a lot of spare time and I'm very nervous around new people after being almost bedridden for 8/9 months, I have started running and go for walks with my family but I'm a bit lonely here. None of my old friends talk to me, and I don't have a lot of time to go out and meet people. I just wish my old friends would talk to me but without having me in person no one seems interested.
Is there anywhere online to make friends? It sounds a bit uncool but it's just adult conversation I miss. I live in a place called Portreath and everyone in my village seems old :-/

Sorry if this is a really lame thread, I'm just a bit lonely and maybe a bit desperate! I even had a dream where I made friends with a bailiff who came to take our tv, and now I miss my imaginary bailiff friend!! (Yes I'm insane... I don't know why she came to take our telly...)

Thanks for listening!!

Amy Xxx

Yay!

Could you approach the new age shop about accommodating your massage/reflexology skills in some way?

Going self employed sounds like a fab idea but it isn't the right time yet so it's a frustrating waiting time until you are able to do so, both financially and emotionally - putting them in childcare. Can your OH start collecting childcare vouchers through work? If not look at how the new tax relief scheme will work. Are there any other skills you can brush up on in preparation? Some bookkeeping skills for the business side? There are evening courses run here for this but it's very easy to do at home, not so helpful for meeting people.

I'm also terrible at meeting new people and making friends but I'd never describe myself as positive and chatty! You (and many of us) need to push through the not being spoken to at groups and just talk to everyone. I know I'd like someone to talk to me as I'm far too shy. Making that one friend at a group is the hardest but should then open up more people through that person. Trying some CBT in confidence may help address the nerves and negative thoughts - just get a book, I found one on ebay for 99p. I don't know what the other mums are like nearby but I know a bit issue for me is that most mums are significantly older than me but worse still is the fact I look several years younger, ten according to one lady and another random old lady asked if my 18 month old was my sister - I was 30! I have no problem talking to people of all ages but I do think it puts the other mums off talking to me and now I just assume they don't want to talk to me.

Google 'Homestart' If there is one near you, they can come and visit you.