Why do we need to talk about problems?

[Rocklover]

Since my OH and I began having problems and subsequently split up, all I have seemed to have done is talk to various people about problems. I won't go into details (as I'm boring myself lol), but talking to my family and my OH just seems to make everything worse as they never seem to understand, or get annoyed with me.

I don't have any girlfriends at the moment that I can talk to and it makes me feel so lonely and pathetic! I just feel like I am perceived as some kind of drama queen who people don't want to deal with, when all I want is a word or two of sympathy from time to time.

I know I can over-react to some stuff, but, TBF so do my family. It's got to the point today (after a minor run in with OH) that I feel that I can no longer confide in anyone with things that really matter to me. Am I the only one who feels like this? I wish I could just let things not bother me and go over my head, but I am not made that way.

Sorry for the rant...it probably doesn't make much sense.

This is what MN is for

Talk away x

Thanks for your reply mell2, but I really don't want to go into details at the moment. I have posted before and got some replies that I didn't deal with very well and this upset me (God knows why lol) and I don't think I am ready to do that again just yet.

So today was just to find out if anyone else feels that everything just gets more complicated the minute they try to expalin their problems to someone else.

sorry Rocklover, thought you needed to talk (wasn't being nosey).

I think that sometimes you really can't explain to people how you feel (they can't get inside your head)

Take carexx

Hi RL. I know what you mean, that's why these days I tend to keep any serious problems to myself and suffer in silence. I've found that unless people have been in the same or similar siuations then they aren't all that able to empathise with you and that just makes you feel like you must be in the wrong.

I think this do get trickier when you talk to others sometimes as everyone has a view, which is coloured by their own experiences - and no-one is inside your head so actually knows the full story. Big difference between talking to someone who just listens and someone who gives you their opinion / tries to help (which can sometimes have the opposite effect.) Have you tried Samaritans when you are at the end of your tether. They are great at listening and don't advise you what or what not to do