It's so messed up!

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My best friend and I have always been close despite living in different countries.

It became apparent a few months ago his feelings were more than friendship and initially I was horrified and cut contact. He's married.

He turned up at my door completely unexpected tonight and we spoke. Despite previous denial I have come to the conclusion that I care for him a lot more than is normal.

How have I fallen for someone who is married? I've sent him back
To where he is staying but he's due to be at a family wedding tomorrow night. He says him And his wife have split up because it wasn't fair on her the feelings he had for me.

Everything is such a mess!

He's married and therefore 'off limits' to you. You were right to cut contact with him when he crossed the friendship line. Now that you realize that your feelings are stronger than friendship it is doubly important to cut contact.

He says that he and his wife have split up (which I sincerely doubt). You can always tell him that if his feelings for you are the same when his divorce is final, he can recontact you then with copies of the final decree in hand. Until then, stay out of his life. And don't wait for him.

Op you are a sucker if you fall for this. He's not gone out of his way to see you , he was in the country anyway attending this wedding. There is absolutely no way he has confessed these feelings to his wife , you haven't even been in contact for months. Why would any sane person leave a marriage over feelings for someone that are not returned ?

This post isn't mine :-S

Did you leave yourself logged in somewhere public or accessible?

I don't think so. I usually only mumsnet from my phone.

Someone else posted from your phone?

Possibly, be a bit of an odd thing to do. Maybe a glitch

Whoa. That is odd. Is there anyone who could've posted from your phone? Could your account have been hacked? I suppose anyone's could be, really.