Match.com

[Herald]

I am a man and been divorced for about a year, I have been trying on line dating with varied success , tried Pof had a couple of dates but don't really feel its the site for me.

I was thinking of trying a paid dating had a look at match.com because they have a try before you buy offer at the minute.

Has anyone had good experiences of paid OD or is it best to hope to meet someone in the real world...

Herald

I found match.com to be a bit morgue-like tbh

POF is very big and it really is a numbers game. But I met my lovely DP on POF 18 months ago and have never been happier

I met my husband on pof. I think you need to really spend time reading profiles. If I was going to pay I would go for guardian soulmates.

Match IMO is full of people who want to chat. I've had some bizarre messages on there too, from men who feel brave behind a laptop but are probably married.

Having said that, I have made a couple of friends from there but I'm not looking for a friend.

I did have one of my best dates from there though but they are so hard to find.

Why do you think POF isn't for you? You might find that the same people on POF are also on Match.

Good luck!

Check out the dating site "profiles" before you start browsing real people's profiles.

Have a google for "best online dating sites" and read through some newspaper and magazine reviews. They will give you a picture of the average user profile, an idea of the type of people that use different sites.

Everyone I know uses Guardian Soulmates. But they are all liberal, 30 something, creative types living in London. Which is exactly the profile of the average Soulmates user.

I joined Guardian Soulmates about a month ago & have been v.disappointed. Thus far, I've been 'liked' by two much younger men, not of my ethnic origin (I'm a white, middle aged mum and look like it) who were presumably hoping for a shag. I sent brief, chatty emails to three men whose profiles seemed a good match and none of them replied. I then joined okcupid because I liked the 'match' questions, but I don't think it's the site for me - too many lazy men who can't be bothered to fill in their profile and are openly looking for casual sex.

I'm not saying this is you, OP,but I'm astonished by the sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectations many men on these sites have - wanting a woman considerably younger than they are with very specific body shape demands and requests for full length photos. It's not like these men are God's gift; they are usually pretty average, balding and a bit paunchy. I'm beginning to think OD isn't for me, TBH.

DP and I met on match.com 8 years ago although he freely admits that he only signed up for a laugh and got more than he bargained for lol

Good luck

My sister met her fiancé on match. They get married in December!
I believe at least one of her friends also met her long term partner on there.

Handful ... I dont like pof because it seems to be all the same people , I went on early in the year for a look and then activated my account again last month and the same people are still on...I have done a match up profile and all my matches are miles away ...

I've been on GSM and I was disappointed, even living in London. Very quiet! I quite like Lovestruck, but that's london based.

Have you tried Smooch? Two of my friends met their husbands on there

Herald. I went on Match last year and found the woman of my dreams. Ok. Its not all plain sailing and we have had a few rows (who doesn't!) but it always ends up with us making up. As well as getting on we have a great sex life (perhaps both go hand in hand). I admit that although there are some issues in our relationship I truly love her and as soppy as it sounds I can feel it (18 months on and we still talk to each other at lunch and if we can't send sextext's. I didn't go on Match looking for a relationship just some fun (sex or no sex) but what I have found feels that she is the right woman for me. Btw I am not God's gift but not like the men UpNorthAgain describes so I wasn't looking for younger women with specific body shapes. I wasn't after anything other than being attracted to her which I really am. So open your mind and be careful who you meet but do not rule anyone out for anything silly. Look at yourself and decide if its you and not them! Good Luck Mate

I have used OKC and met lots of nice people on there though really only looking at the ones with whom I had a high match percentage. Not met The One yet but I haven't found it as dodgy as POF and its a lot busier than GS.

OKC was always my favourite when in was dating, had some cracking dates and some shockers, to be fair.

But I met my DP on POF... However, it has to be said - don't go there if you are in any way a pedant. I almost collapsed with indignance when I saw the number of misplaced apostrophes

Yeah I got properly nastily trolled by blokes who objected to me saying not to bother contacting me if they used LOL and txtspk in their messages ;-)

SoftlySpoken, you have partly restored my faith in OD - maybe I'll give it another go. I could just view as a 'wanker filter' anyone wanting a significantly younger woman, or anyone who writes about 'girls'. Oh, and anyone who can't be arsed to take a proper photo but who uses a ropey webcam shot.....

I found that anyone who was on Match was also on POF so I took the cheap option and didn't sign up for match!

Met wonderful dp on POF 2 years ago, sifted through quite a few undesirables to find him, but had a few nice dates first.

I know people who have had bad experiences with OD, but for me it was a brilliant way to meet like minded local people who I would otherwise not have met. Never had a cock shot or anything inappropriate.

I met dp on POF. happiest ive ever been...
we now live together

I met my husband on match affinity. It was £90 for 3 months and figured anyone who would spend that was financially solvent
The questionnaire took an hour so I figured they'd be serious and not just after a casual shag too