This conversation - dh’s friend suspects he’s cheating????

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DH uses my phone to use Facebook messenger sometimes and left himself logged in, there was a conversation on there with one of his work friends, this guy is younger than dh and single and conversation started about their work but then was mainly him saying about a girl he likes (his friend), then the end of the conversation was this:

Friend: ‘So is there anything new I should know about with you?’
DH: ‘no’
Friend: ‘Sure?’
DH: ‘what are you thinking of?’
Friend: ‘you and amy?’
DH: ‘what about her?’
friend: ‘well, are you two doing it?’
DH: ‘no’
Friend: ‘ok’

That was the end of the conversation. DH said no but obviously something made his friend ask him and the rest of the conversation was a lot friendlier, that bit was weirdly short and serious. If it was a stupid question or a joke i’d have expected dh to make light of it

I’ve never heard of Amy.

Anyone? What would you think of this? Should I be worried?

I'd say it could really go either way on this one. Could be completely innocent.

In itself I wouldn't be that worried. But inevitably it would make me keep a look out for any other signs of cheating. But I'm a suspicious type.
Do you have any other reasons to suspect him of cheating?

I would have to ask my DH I would not be able to hold it in but I would be watching his reaction very carefully. If the colleague is young he might have just witnessed mild flirting and imagined more.

so hard to say but it sounds like it could be innocuous - this guy is younger, he could just be an immature idiot who wants a story and has seen you DH talking to 'Amy'. People love gossip at work. The way your DH answered the questions seems innocent enough. I'm a paranoid android though so I can say all this but I'd be boiling the bunny now - that is definitely not the way forward though!

very simple answer from your dh though.. just "no"?? If it'd been me chatting with a mate, I'd have been a bit more like "what? seriously? no way!"

maybe that's just me. I realise it's a message and not a conversation but it seems very matter of fact. where's the surprise or shock at the suggestion??

I would do some digging (phone, facebook, emails etc) then adk him about it

I would ask him "why do people at your work think you're fucking Amy?".

My DH's face would tell me all I needed to know.

If he had come home and said Jack thinks I am shagging Amy I would have my PI pants on.

This, not so sure.

His deadpan reaction could reflect irritation with the childish question?

My gut tells me this is innocent.

I have a gossip-loving male friend who sees flirtations and affairs everywhere, mainly because he is not really able to "score" himself. He creates things, and only has the confidence to do it over things like messenger rather than in person.

Ok I bit the bullet and asked him, he was similar to how he was with his friend, very matter of fact just said nothing was going on, doesn't know why friend would think it was, said she's 'just someone at work'

I haven't been at all suspicious until now but it's made me a bit uneasy

So sorry to hear you feel uneasy - I am not sure what to suggest for the best tonight, but I do sympathise

I just checked online for what I thought. Expert opinion is that when someone denies something and is telling the truth, they just deny. No further comments etc. Liars, on the other hand, keep talking. I think, as someone else has already said, that the other person, being younger, is more interested in who fancies who etc, and assumes that everybody must fancy someone.