What do you think?

[Radley]

DH has been working alot over the last week or so and me and the children have hardly seen him.

A couple of days ago he said he was going into town today to get me something for my birthday, it has now progressed to going to town, having some dinner, going to the pub etc for the afternoon, hence he is not picking the kids up from school (as he promised) and goodness knows what time he will be home, and, what state he will be in.

I was hoping for some quiet time with him this afternoon , and if I mention it, I'll be the bad one.

it sounds like it is his birthday.

i know, dd2 went 3 days without seeing her daddy.

i think you should mention it. state your case calmly and factually and don't react to any jibes. don't get into a discussion or argument. let him take responsibility.

I think I might do, don't get me wrong, I don't mind him going out at all, he goes out alot more than me, but, when we haven't seen him for a while I would have like to have today together, especially as he is back at work tomorrow.

yes, just say calmly that you think it is more important to spend some time together than for him to go out looking for a present. (Just as long as he finds time before your birthday )

He's still insisting on going

how about suggetsing thatyou go into town withim? you can wait in a coffee shop whilst he gets your pressie then you can go for a pub lunch or something.

share the dya together whilst he still gets to do the thigs he wanted to

I do think he is being selfish then Will he agree to what FM suggested. Then you can go and pick kids up from school together.

He's already gone, goodness knows how long he thinks it is going to take, he also says he won't be back to collect from school.

On his way out he said 'oh, by the way, what do you want? I have no idea what to buy you'. . Needless to say, I just glared at him.