How often do you compliment your dh /dp specifically about his body (serious question - need to compare answers)

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Just had row with dh - about something else as it happens (the burglar alarm went off in middle of night as it had been programmed wrongly), and row culminated with him storming off to sleep in spare room after announcing:

"You don't give a damn about me, my body or my feelings"

• the reference to "my body" aludes to earlier tonight before we went to bed and he walked into the room naked (as per usual - doesn't use pjs) except for a pair of slippers. At that point he complained that I never compliment him on his body and don't I like it etc etc? I was a bit nonplussed by this tbh....

Anyway, this is obviously an issue for him (since it came up again just now re not giving a damn about his body).

I wonder if I am remarkably insensitive about this sort of thing. My question to you, in all seriousness, is how often do you compliment your husband specifically on his body (don't count -'your hair looks nice dear" after a visit to the barber), and in what contexts? (i.e. do you tend only to do this as part of foreplay or during sex).

Am I the only woman who doesn't regularly say to her partner - "I love your body darling"?

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Oh, I forgot, he does have two mega blackheads on his back which I enjoy on a quarterly basis He knows I love those!

Very rarely - but having read this will try to do better! Very good point, easy to forget how sensitive they are.

Eowyn, well, what is going on then? Sounds very odd! Not your post, but the bit about wondering what's going on. Or aren't you going to tell

Have you all noticed that bums seem to get the most mention on this thread??? I grab a handful - or two- every time we have an upright cuddle and say something like "mmm nice buns" and I don't think he ever gets tired of hearing it. As for his gut - well that's another matter!!

WTAF

I love to see my husband's bare chest, with him just wearing jeans. I say to him he could be advertising aftershave.

I stroke his naked legs and tell him he's got hamstrings like steel cables.

I tell him I love his broad shoulders and chest. I love his chest hair. I love hearing his voice.

This is such an old thread!

Probably a good handful of times a day. Most likely in the morning or evening when he undressed for bed because it’s on show more

I think it is important to help boost their self esteem in the way it would make you feel better about yourself if they complimented you regularly

My husband has said that he'd like to be complimented more so I'm trying to do it.

I told him his bum looks good last night and he jumped up and did a little jokey dance saying 'Huzzah, my wife likes my body, finally, a chance for this marriage!'. So point taken!

In return, he's promised to stop slathering over me like a hungry dog with a bone, which I honestly find a turn off (and, believe me, is unwarranted by my figure!).

Pretty often, most days? Usually when he has taken some clothes off or before bed. Often sort of jokily?

I'm so sorry but I couldnt help burst out laughing at the image of a naked man walking around in slippers asking, "Dont you like my body?"

I do regularly, but he doesn't believe me.

The thing is, whilst he's not conventionally attractive I really like his body. Ok, so he's a little tubby but I would not fancy him if he had a six pack - I find really muscley bodies a turn-off, and I love grey hair on a main, which he has. So for me he's almost perfect. But he doesn't believe it when I say it to him, which makes me say these things more in the hope that one day he'll get the message. I find it sad he doesn't believe me.

I know this is an old thread, but it is one to which I can deeply relate.

This has been an issue between my wife and I. She is easily able to verbalize her thoughts on other men's appearance, maily celebrities, so there is no hang up with verbalizing things, however when it comes to me, she is silent. We have discussed this more times than I can count, and when I would bring it up, she would gush appropriately, but it never clicked with her that I wanted to hear it, so the only time I got any verbal affirmation of her physical attraction was when I brought it up. It just shot my self image even worse when ever I would bring this up.

I finally just gave up on actually changing anything years ago, because I am not sure there was anything there to actually change. You can't force something that isn't really there. She has largely stopped with the comments about her celeb hotties, and will now rarely make a comment about how sexy she finds me, but it just doesn't feel natural to me. Almost as if it is something she just remembered she was supposed to do. I guess I should appreciate that she tries, but I am not sure she will ever actually get me to believe that she finds me any more than passable in the physical attraction department. At least I don't repulse her, so there is that.