Is it too late to change my mind....

[eeyoreandpooh]

Not sure if this is the right place for this question but you are all so helpful in this forum:) I am divorcing my emotionally abusive bully of a husband, negotiations have gone on for nearly a year now and finally I thought we had reached an agreement. However, since agreeing via solicitors(nothing signed or gone to court yet) I am having second thoughts - can I change my mind? He has been dishonest all the way through and I feel as if I have been tricked into accepting the amount that's been offered:( so, can I change my mind? Make a couple of suggestions to go into the final agreement that I know he will not agree to but that are fair and in the interests of the children? This will make it all go on longer and possibly end up in court I think, but I really feel it's unfair:( any advice much appreciated,thank you:)

Legally you can change your mind - but you have a solicitor to check the with. So I'm wondering if you mean more "morally" and you're sort of looking for support and permission here rather than a legal answer?

Go for it. Call your solicitor and get then started on it.

There are worse things than going to court. Accepting a really rubbish settlement could be one of them.

That's it I think, I will regret it if I don't just go for it - I have nothing at the moment so I have nothing to lose. I am just not good at causing upset and problems - especially as I have already agreed in principle, just not signed or approved any court orders yet

Don't be afraid to go to court. Court may be your friend.

Of course you can change your mind. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and your children.

It sounds like you just caved as you wanted it over and now you realise that it wasn't wise?

Def stand up for what you and your dc need.

You only get one bite of the cherry. I regret not going after more and once it's finalised you can't change your mind
Speak to your solicitor without delay though

You only ever regret the things you didn't do.

Or so they say.

I would do it otherwise you will just feel ripped off and bitter... but maybe speak to your solicitor first.

Thank you all:) going to ting first thing, I think her opinion is I am being ripped off and he has been very dishonest, my plan was that hopefully the thought of court will persuade him to make a better offer - he won't want to go to court cause he will have to be honest

Agreeing with others, just tell your solicitor you've changed your mind. If nothing has been signed, nothing has been agreed. Make sure your solicitor is confident, however, that a court will make a better award. Also be realistic about the time-scales involved.

Good luck and well done for being assertive

Enjoy changing your mind and doing whats best for you !!!!