DS2 came to me upset a few weekends, telling me that ex-W's boyfriend wouldn't let him play football when I asked why, he just shrugged and said he's not allowed to play other games too. Confused, I asked DS1 and he told me that X doesn't let DS2 play with them in case he falls bleeds (DS2 is HIV+).
I called ex-w and asked if she knew of this and told me that I was trying to cause trouble between her and X and that he does play with DS2 but that she'll talk to him and then hung up on me. I found out this week that X take's the boys to the park for an hour so that PG ex-w can rest, and it seems from what I've figured out it's then when DS2 is somewhat excluded.
So I called ex-w when DS2 came home, again, upset and she then informed me that DS2 had fallen over in park and scrapped his knee and X had panicked and shouted at him. I may have made things worse by asking if she had taught X how to treat a wound, that if she hadn't she shouldn't have bloody let him take them out alone especially without a mini first aid kit. She told me she had and that she wasn't stupid.
I'm unsure as what to do, I do regret how I snapped at her because I do think she genuinely didn't know how X had been acting towards DS2 and told me that she'd talked to X again, and she did sound frustrated about the situation. It's happened on 3 different occasions but I'm unsure whether to get involved or let ex-W deal with it and see what happens when she has them next (she's going on holiday for a tomorrow). Am I just making something out of nothing?
Any advice would be helpful. What would you do? I have posted here before and got some great advice, so hoping for that again.