Interested in people's thoughts on this ....

[GoogleChick]

I have a friend who I've know 3 years we meet up about once every 3 weeks. I have children she doesn't. She leaves it up to me to suggest next meeting times as I have to factor in childcare. However I have noticed that every time I text her about meeting up she always takes days to respond...

On Saturday morning I texted her and asked if she was free Tuesday eve (tomorrow) as I can meet then. No reply. I texted 2 other people and they texted back within a couple hours.

I start getting a bit impatient today so I texted her asking her if she could meet up tomorrow could she let me know, so I could sort out what I was doing :)

She replied saying shed been away for a long weekend and would check later and let me know...

I'm sure she will let me know but do find it annoying she always seems to keep me hanging on, surely she could get back quicker with either a yes or no??

We are always very friendly never had a cross word but I was going to bring it up with her just in a jokey way to ask if there was any reason she did this??

Just interested what other people think?

Well, next time say me and X and X are meeting up at Y, come along if you'd like.

You are making it too easy for her to mess about.

Lately I've been to a few things on my own, it just seems tooooo hard to get others to commit (and I've had a great time as I am going to what I want to see/do, not had to compromise to suit others).

She's waiting for a better offer.

See the other friends. More reliable.

Google, she sounds as if she is not all that bothered with your friendship. Is she a good friend in other ways?

Drives me bonkers when people do this. I think it's quite rude.
Sounds like hard work.

Lol realised it sounded like I was meeting up with two other friends.....I had texted the other people about other things but noticed that most people in fact everyone I know almost always texts back within few hours. But she doesn't which makes me wonder why....she normally does meet up she has actually texted now saying tomorrow is fine if not too short notice.....I just wonder why she takes so long to commit herself....
She isn't a close friend, maybe this is her way of making sure it stays that way? Or it could be work I guess perhaps she doesn't know straight away whether she will be free...do you think it's worth mentioning/ asking?

I wouldn't chase it, one text, if she doesn't reply her loss, make other plans.

although......I'm guilt of being a slow responder to text simply because I'm not glued to my phone, I'm not one of those people who walks around with it in their hand constantly checking. It dwells in the dark recesses of my bag most of the time so I don't hear the text noise.
People who know me know to phone if they need a prompt response on something maybe she is like this?

Just to add, if she responds last minute I'd just say sorry I hadn't heard from you before so assumed it was a no and made other plans.......

If you are someone who is always at the station two days before the train comes in and you befriend someone who flies down the platform just as the train is taking off, then you WILL find their behaviour exasperating.

To be someone's friend you HAVE to accept them for how they are.
You say she is not a close friend but your post is full of angst about her. I feel you need to relax about your expectations.
People are different. If you want this woman's company then you have to put up with her NOT being you, and accept her responding to your texts in her own way/ time.
I know you need to plan because you have children but if her behaviour upsets you so much and you can't accept her for what she is, then I don't think you have any choice but to give her up.
As a single person her priorities are anyway very different from yours.
You could tell her why you need her to respond to your texts promptly, but I think it would be hopeless. She is as she is.