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Self destruct mode (long)

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llwynogbach · 06/10/2014 08:54

So my dp of two years has pressed a self destruct button. He does this from time to time due to an old brain injury and depression. I can usually wait it out and all is fine. However this time he has gone above and beyond his usual behavior, we had a tiff on Mon night, I overreacted at being called stupid (its a term my abusive mother used a lot) I admit shouting at him in public which I accept is not dignified or acceptable behavior. He reacted by saying we were finished, this has happened before so I ignored it. He didn't speak to me until yesterday when he sent and email outlining how much I should contribute towards the house. it is his house and while I have been here I have paid electric, gas, food, broadband, sky and phone. over the last two months I also contributed towards the mortgage. During heated discussion last night he also revealed that on Fri he had an argument with his mum and is now ignoring her and not speaking. He has told our mutual friends we have split etc. He is also trying to get me to leave my dog behind (we got him to be friends with his dog) apparently if I take him "it proves I am selfish and trying to get what I can from life with as little input contribution and commitment as possible." Literally no idea where this all came from, last weekend he was all I love you, I'm so glad I met you, I can't wait to marry you etc etc.

Where has this all come from?? It's worse because I know he doesn't mean it, I think he's cutting off his nose to spite his face for want of a better phrase. Don't worry I'm not sitting here waiting for him to calm down, already on the ball and looking for places to rent. Incredibly hard with a do in tow though :(

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/10/2014 08:59

I'm sorry but I would take him on face value rather than glibly assuming he doesn't mean it. Even if his behaviour is related to depression etc, why should you be on the brunt end of it? Hope you find a nice new place to rent.

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