Insecure partner

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My partner seems to spend a lot of time worrying about our sex life and i don't really know why. He is worried about making me orgasm (which admitted doesn't ever really happen during sex itself) he worries about the fact that he comes quite quickly sometimes (but nothing i have ever complained about), he worries and being 'big enough' to satisfy me properly (he isn't the smallest, certainly not the biggest either - but again he doesn't know that).. Does anyone else have any similar experiences or advice?
Thanks
Di

From your OP I'd have guessed you were only months into the relationship. 5 years is a ridiculous amount of time for him to still be pulling this pathetic, juvenile crap. I'd suggest he gets professional help for his insecurities and completely ban that sort of talk around me, but then I like a man to act like a man and not a whimpering, snivelling manchild.

OP, is this a problem to you for the reasons that DHandhisgrossfoot outlines

or because you have an actual problem with his size/shape/technique

if it's the former, I stick to my original advice

if it's the latter, you are out of order

I read those last posts as you having fond memories of your ex being both bigger and better in bed. If he came across this thread somehow, that would demolish him.

Can you be sure that you haven't also given him that impression of your ex through something you might have said?

OP, go easy on your DH. Some men feel insecure about Micropenis, but it is a real condition. My support group is really caring and we learn to focus on cuddles instead

Does DH send you "rate from 1 to 10 how our service was" txts that Sky send you after they've fixed your broadband?

I dont have a problem with how he is or looks etc - more the constant questions - after a might huge humdinger of an argument last night i found the source of the questioning and it's more recent increasing. He backed up our computers, photos, music etc on to a hard drive - ran out of memory, remembered seeing another one somewhere. When he said that i paniced and know what he had done. I have an old box with family, university stuff - covered in dust - never opened for years - the hard drive in on the same shelf. Some snooping - and old disc - previous partner and me together - i was sure i had thrown it away but obviously i hadnt! So foolish!