ive noticed a thread within my marriage. we have always had ups and downs but recently i guess the penny has dropped that he constantly belittles me. Over the years ive heard the following: your working class, i would never have married you if i met you in my own country (again class based), your a girl from X (again a reference to the fact that im from an economically deprived area of the uk), you have no passion, you dont do anything for me and yesterday im more educated than you, i had a better education than you etc, etc. I really cant carry on this way. The man is a total tool. I mean no one in my life has mad reference to where I am from because its just a place in the uk its not at all notorious. Its just like most normal towns. do you think he has to belittle me to make himself look better. I am no shrinking violet and i travelled a lot before i met him. He is a silver spoon mummy and daddy type whereas obviously i am not. i think its the only thing he has to say against me but this morning i was so hurt by the reference. because noone speaks to me that way and i have lived away for more of my life than ive lived there yet according to him it defines me. i tear up easily when i think that he thinks that way about me and he can belittle me and knock me like that. i think i thought we were past all this, we had grown up a bit and worked on our marriage but this this morning has shook me to the core. i cant see where we can go from here. its here he doesnt respect me.