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How do I recover?

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saltnpepa · 04/10/2014 17:55

I have a narcissistic sister who has spent the past decade trying to destroy my life. We used to be very close until one day I stood up to her and told her I felt her constant digs at me were disrespectful and I have been left reeling in her narcissistic rage ever since. I tried to make the peace with her over and over again but she just continued to punish me and I let her. She ruined my wedding day (a very long story), she ignored me when my first baby was born, she made a relationship with my children and then just dumped them without warning, she has mocked every aspect of my life, to my face and to others. I feel like my whole life has been ripped to bits by her and yet I have tried to hold onto the good in it but she has been like a poison. I have finally gone no contact but I just feel annihilated by her and don't know how to really truly recover. How did I go from the adored sister to being treated like the worst person in the world and the lengths she has gone to in her cruelty have been extreme.

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BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 04/10/2014 18:04

Congratulations on going non-contact. That must have taken a lot of courage.

If you can't start to feel better about your life now you haven't got that poisonous spider in it, perhaps you could consider finding someone to talk to. Whatever she has done to you can be undone. You've been sucked dry and left an empty husk. Fill it with joy and laughter wherever you can find it.

saltnpepa · 05/10/2014 19:28

Thank you bitter, I have no idea where to start.

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NellieSpencer · 05/10/2014 19:36

Ask your GP to refer you for some counselling?

Going NC is the first step to healing.

RandomMess · 05/10/2014 19:39

Def get some therapy/counselling. I cannot imagine what that sort of bereavement must feel like.

Well done for going NC it is the first step.

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