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Wish he would just fuck off!

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Poolbirthx2 · 04/10/2014 06:59

Seriously i am so mad right now! Wish dh would just go! He does nothing for us. Im up every night night feeds and with a crying baby and then up everyday at 5.30. He is still snoring away. I am mad. Sat crying writing this. I wish he would meet another woman at work and just leave me. Dont even know why im writing this - its just to let me anger out!!!

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CheeseEqualsHappiness · 04/10/2014 07:06

How old is your baby?

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Poolbirthx2 · 04/10/2014 07:35

Nearly 6 months

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3pigsinblanketsandasausagerole · 04/10/2014 07:37

Aww pool that's hard

Have you spoken to him? Sounds stupid but some people don't realise you don't enjoy doing all the work all the time

Levismum · 04/10/2014 07:39

What was he like before the baby arrived? Are you bf/ff? Can you leave the baby with him today to get some sleep/rest?

Quitelikely · 04/10/2014 07:42

Right OP go and wake your dh up and tell him that he needs to get the dc while you go to sleep. Then go back to bed.

It truly irritates me when I see posts like this where the husband is doing non of the hard work when it comes to raising their own baby!

You are not a 24 hour slave, you're a mother but he's a bloody father and husband. Tell him to act like one or he's out!

dollius · 04/10/2014 07:44

^^
What she said

Original poster
Poolbirthx2 · 04/10/2014 07:59

Yes ive told him a couple of times - nothing ever changes! He was lovely before ds was born

Ive had enough now though, when he is up and ive calmed down i am telling him to leave. I dont know where he will go though

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Levismum · 04/10/2014 08:08

The first months with a new baby are weird, amazing, exhausting & stressful.

Everything changes once the baby arrives. I don't know if your dh is generally a lazy useless twit only you do but right now, in the middle of hideous exhaustion, probably isn't the best time to make that decision.

You need sleep before anything else!

gamerchick · 04/10/2014 08:15

It's true.. The first year is like a bomb going off relationship wise. I think you're at the end of your rope with the sleep thing.. its unfair.

Wake him up and tell him to take his child and you go back to bed. Tell him when you've had a sleep you want to have a chat with him.

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Poolbirthx2 · 04/10/2014 08:34

Thank you for replying

I just cant see it getting any better. I will tell him and then feel sorry for him and next week be back at square one. I think i might have pnd with lack of sleep and help not helping!

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Quitelikely · 04/10/2014 09:54

Well if nothing changes nothing changes.

You need to grow a back bone and stand up to him. Do not feel sorry for him, he certainly doesn't feel sorry for you.

You have got the power to change this situation but you are not using it.

Go right up them stairs and tell him it's your turn to sleep. You need sleep just as much as he does.

No doubt this is affecting your ability to bond with your lovely son because your selfish twat of a husband can't be bothered to take responsibility for his own son!

tribpot · 04/10/2014 09:57

Agree with everyone else - get him up, get yourself some sleep. You will feel much better if you are able to get some zzzzzs, and then you can think about a proper plan of action.

It's not your job to feel sorry for him or figure out where he might go if you ask him to leave. He's a grown up. He can sort himself out.

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