Birthday present complaint

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A couple of weeks ago it was my dp's birthday. He is difficult to buy for I looked about and got him alcohol, nice glasses for alcohol a picture and a picture mug from the kids as well as cards. I also made him a birthday cake. Last night he said he felt I did not put enough effort into his present and was disappointed with it. Is he right?

What an idiot. Dp isn't the greatest at getting presents and rather than wasting money and adding to the dust catchers I politely tell him that if he's stuck for ideas then I'd like such and such.

To get all sulky like that is absolutely ridiculous. You made an effort and that is the point.

Good god! How old is your DP?? He's behaving like a spoilt five-year-old!

I've never encountered someone who's complained about the standard of a present before. I'm shocked. Really.

He's a rude, ungrateful and greedy twat!

What a miserable git!

It was a bottle of whisky. I think his reaction was ungrateful and I didn't really think he was like that. Makes me not like that part of him.

It sounds v thoughtful to me. It's DH's 40th in a few weeks and so far I'm getting him socks.

I order part of his Christmas present today it's a framed print of an artists he likes. I don't know whether to give it to him or to keep it for Christmas. This is because I feel upset about something I shouldn't feel bothered about. I normally over buy for people.

I find even more strange that he bought the tickets a long time ago and then expected you to buy them out for his birthday. I don't understand these things in families. May be alcohol is not his cup of tea but he should have been pleased with the rest.

I would be upset too. Just give him the Christmas present now as his birthday present. He sounds ungrateful and a bit greedy.

That makes no sense optimistic. He is moaning, ungrateful and greedy so i had better give him extra presents .

The whisky disappeared fast! He likes that! I don't know what to do about the picture. I will c if I am
less annoyed with him after the weekend.

A bit of a diva. He should apologise properly to you otherwise what will be the point I buying a next present for him.

Don't even think about giving him the picture as a belated birthday present - otherwise you are rewarding his bad/childish behaviour and will have to top that for Christmas - you are getting into a present escalation situation.

He's been ridiculous; don't pander to it. You have an overwhelming "it's not you, it's him" from MN.

My DH sometimes buys me shit presents but he has no idea because I appreciate the effort he puts in and I would never be so rude as to tell him if I think a resent isn't good enough.
It sounds like you did make an effort so I would ignore your OH, he is being an arse

My DH bought me a Gillian Michaels '30 Day Shred' DVD for my birthday a few months after giving birth to our second Daughter. Now that's a shit present!

Admittedly, I had randomly mentioned getting it for myself few weeks before, so he thought he was being thoughtful.

Your pressie sounded lovely - your DP is an ungrateful sod!

Save the picture for Christmas, and give him homemade gifts after that. Manipulative git.