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[Lookingforabetteryear]

Was with ex for two years In that time we had a baby, who is now 9 months. We split around 6 months ago. Whilst I was pregant he would threaten to take his own life/ pubch walls/ blame everything on me/ accuse me of cheating/ scream and shout at me/ drive dangerously/ call me any name under the sun-slag, bitch etc/ never drop anything id done wrong. Anyway I just can't seem to get over the anger of being treated so badly. It plagues me. My life is becoming more positive in other ways but I feel robbed of so many experiences of having a two parent fam for baby/ happy pregnancy etc. has anyone felt this??

Do you think you might have PTSD? You are bound to be angry but it will be a process that will take time and as you are living a more positive life now it will get better and better I promise. You could wear a bracelet that you could ping if you're thinking angry thoughts to remind you to stop. You need him and the past out of your head so you can be happy today ! Well done for LTB!

I have just ended an emotionally abusive relationship, thankfully there were no children involved. I experience some thoughts of anger, more about the fact I had to get work involved because he threatened to end my career, but mostly I feel a bit 'empty'.

My very good friend suggested that my feelings on numbness were symptomatic of PTSD as my body was just trying to help me cope.

Firstly congratulations for having the strength to end it. Secondly try not to concentrate on what he has taken from you and think about all the wonderful memories you can create with your DC now that he is no longer casting a black shadow over your life. You will feel better soon.

"has anyone felt this??"

I think what you're feeling is normal. It's only been 6 months since you split up and abusive relationships are very traumatic experiences. All the time you were with this person you knew what was happening was wrong and yet you stuck around - possibly thinking that love would conquer all or maybe thinking that the new baby would lead to a change in personality. So you sacrificed a lot to be with this person and it was all for nothing. Of course you're furious.

Who ended the relationship? You or him?