My mum's attempted suicide

[Elfina]

I've just found out my mum tried to kill herself last week and is in hospital. She was very neglectful and emotionally abusive growing up. My head's in a bloody mess.

Sorry Elfina. You must be pretty shook up.

I'm sorry xxxx hope you're ok.

Of course you're in a mess you poor love, doesn't matter in some ways his anysuve she was, she's still your mother so bound to be difficult to deal with the knowledge. Be kind and gentle on yourself, but don't feel you have to be there for her if you don't want to be, she forfeited her right to your time and energy when she abused you. Hugs for you

I won't go into my history with my late mum, it would take too long, but I do know where you're coming from.

To deal with my mum when I had to, I cut off from our previous relationship. I thought of myself as one human being trying to meet a need for another. That meant I could visit her in the care home without telling her daily about what a bitch she'd been.

Long term, you must have counselling, or more counselling if you've had some already.

'They fuck you up, your mum and dad', the man said. He was right.