Momentum of failing relationship, is there such a thing?

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H and I have a very dificult relationship which I have posted about under many names over the years.

It is too long to go into the ins and outs of it but I am now finding that it is all coming to a head, with fallouts over seemingly small stuff every day, as if my body can't take it any more and despite the fact that it I am absolutely terrified of splitting up, it is going to happen almost of its own volition .

Can anyone relate to this?

I suppose what I was trying to ask was whether towards the end of any relationship you could feel it kind of imploding by itself. I suppose that in the climate of complete lack of affection / love between, the arguments / criticism / silence are too hard to take.

between us

I can relate, its like a snowball picking up speed and getting bigger and bigger as it rolls down a mountain. The vicious circle of neglect and feeling neglected needs to be stopped but I haven't a clue how to do it. Sorry, no advice just sympathy, hopefully Cog or AF et al will be along shortly.

same after a lonely argumentative summer where dh did his own thing and avoided having anytime with me or the kids so no hols.
I am fed up of a lonely loveless situation and he decided tonight to tell me i make him unhappy and keep F..ing moaning.He is such a charmer.I had hoped 28yrs together would get easier but hadnt reckoned on his ill health or that of both my parents.
I feel v lonely and a bit lost with no one to turn to.I have no answers but just want you to know you are not alone in a struggling relationship.

i think you know it's over but you haven't adjusted to your new future yet.

it's not like you will miss the love and respect and affection and compatibility after all.. but change is terrifying. Even change for the better terrifies people and I think the feeling you're facing now is the terror of facing change.