Partners of Sex Addicts Support Group

[gypsy1975]

Hello Everyone!

I want to start a support group for partners and spouses of anyone married to a sex addict. Anyone living in the Bath, Bristol, Weston Super-Mare and surrounding areas of the UK, please send me a message or respond to this post and I will get in touch.

I am painfully aware of how alone and despondent you might feel. Its not an easy thing to talk about or share with anyone. I am in the situation and want support for myself, and others. We might just start something amazing.

I know men have recovery meetings 2-3 times per week, but women have limited support.

Leave me a message, I will respond asap.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

What about partners who left but are still reeling from the long term issues?

Hi alongcamespiders,

Thanks for your interest and message. First off, I would have responded sooner, but for some reason the alert went to my spam folder. The group can/should also include ex partners, apologies for not making this clear. I applaud anyone who have found the strength to walk away, as I am sure, it wasn't an easy decision. Ex's need support, encouragement, and a helping hand, at what is obviously, a critical time in their lives. I recently attended a recovery day, and while I am grateful for the experience, I was alarmed to find out there was local or regional support groups for the partners (apart from COSA and online chat forums). Thanks for bringing this to light. There is much work to be done. We don't have to go at it alone. Please feel free to send me a personal message here. Lets begin a revolution :)

Thank you, please let me know when something comes up

'Sex addicts' - utter bullshit.

People fuck around because they enjoy it. They are no more 'addicts' than I'm the Queen of Sheba.

Abdication of responsibility at its finest.

Sex addicts my arse.Nasty blokes who have no respect for women and can't keep it in their pants.

What is the definition of sex addict?

Or nasty women who have no respect for men, Maras2.

lovespeaceThank you.You're quite right.I thought that as soon as I sent the post.

Oh not that old pile of crap - yes men and women who can't keep their underwear on really.

No. Such. Thing.

just a dressed up term to excuse someone who is an unfaithful arse.

I don't have a vested interest in this, but I strongly disagree with the pp saying that there's no such thing. Ofcourse there is such a thing as a sex addict, the same as there are drug, chocolate, shopping, tv, shoes, you name it addicts.
How judgemental to come onto a support thread and throw your half formed opinions around! I imagine the life of a sec addict to be very lonely and chaotic and the repercussions for their partners must be tremendous. If you can't be bothered to empathise, why not walk only?'

*on by. Ffs phone!

"but I strongly disagree with the pp saying that there's no such thing. "

Ok, we'll have to agree to disagree.
Are you going to disagree with the other posters who said the same thing but didn't use the words I used? Or is it just me that you have a problem with?

There are such things as sex addicts. People who have a psychological compulsion so extreme that they behave irrationally, recklessly and often put themselves in serious danger to pursue a sexual encounter. They are very very rare but they do exist.

It's the difference between someone who drinks too much and someone who would run into the middle of a motorway to pick up a can of beer.

Sex addiction is a myth. This has been debunked thoroughly by a number of studies and groups.

Whatever your view, please stop jumping on the OP for trying to do some good.

Nobody has jumped on the OP. Expressing an opinion is not the same as jumping on someone.

But she didn't ask for your opinion Vodka did she? You just felt entitled enough to give it on a thread that was trying to give support.

Ah, the irony.

We've had threads identical to this before.

I can't help feeling that someone has an agenda here. Well obviously they do, but you know what I mean.

Does the definition of a sex addict revolve around infidelity? Only asking because I loves a bit of a sex and some might say I was a bit addicted but I wouldn't shag about :-/

Read some of Patrick Carnes and Stephanie Carnes work

Good call Christina - seems 'sex addiction' theory has been discredited.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patrick_Carnes

Thank you for all the responses. I expected varying opinions. I am very grateful for those who recognise what I am trying to do

Unless you have you lived with a sex addict, or spent time in the company of someone who has, you have no earthly idea, how bad it can get. For those who think I have an agenda, I hope you never become involved with one. However, in the event it does happen, I pray there is a support network, you can turn to.

For those in support of my OP, and want to be a part of the group, please send me a message here, and I will respond. I don't think for one minute, starting a group of this nature will be easy, but I do know, there is no limit to what can be achieved.