Feeling so alone.

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DP has been away since Saturday. He's been to see his mates and generally had fun. We made plans to see each other tonight as I haven't seen him since very early Saturday. We don't live together.

Since Saturday I have been working very long hours and trying to study for college. I spent a day in hospital and have been quite poorly due to an accident but didn't ask him to come home to look after me.

Well today he's claimed he doesn't remember we made plans for tonight. He's arranged to go out with friends and refuses point blank to cancel his plans. I'm exhausted, ill and I can't stop crying now. I've been trying to discuss it with him but he has given me minimal feedback and then simply logged out of Facebook. He didn't even invite me to go with him. Not feeling well and not thinking clearly but so very upset and alone. Apart from work I have nobody which is why I'm so scared to leave him when he does things like this.

Help and advice, please. Be gentle.

You can do better than this.

I virtually have nobody else in my life. I have no time to meet anybody, either.

Charming. I advise

1. Get well, look after yourself and leave a blanket on the sofa.
2. Look out for your social life, get out be a 'joiner'. Start with College maybe go to some socials?
3. Once your happier with your life reflect on this man who isn't there for you.

If you have time to wait around while he deigns to offer you some crumbs from his table, you have time to meet other people.

No time? Are you working and studying full time?

I've been there. And there's nothing worse than being second best to someone. Being alone is nicer than being second best.

Concentrate on getting well. Then when you are over this loser focus on yourself and maybe either use the time you would spend seeing him to go and do something for you - fitness, join a club, get a second job in a bar or pub to meet new people, start a course - anything. Or try online dating. Or both. Or all of them.

Don't waste any more time worrying about this twat.

The right man wouldn't want to go out with his mates. He would be at home with you looking after you.

From your op, he sounds like an ass.

A partner doesn't leave their partner ill and crying to go out with mates and then cut off all contact.

Not wanting to be alone is not a reason to stay with someone that treats you poorly. I do understand it, but truly, you're better off without anyone than someone that makes you miserable. And there are always ways to meet people, there's plenty of single students and working professionals who have busy schedules, you can go online, chat with someone, squeeze a coffee date into a free hour.

Do you want the rest if your life to play out like this?

That is so true, 'Being alone is nicer than being second best.'

I am in it up to my ears right now with very little help but you know, whatever! :) I will manage because I don't have anyone with sly, subtle or blatant put downs. My life circumstances are now solely my responsibility.

You deserve better.

Get rid of him and get a cat/dog :)

I work 40 hours a week shifts plus one evening a week at college. I also have homework, I've got three assignments due this week. I'd rushed to get them finished for tonight so I could see him despite being exhausted and this is the thanks I get.

I'm not really sleeping recently which doesn't help. Maybe a course of anti-depressants might help me as my confidence and self-esteem is really low. It's hard to think.

Perhaps your head will clear when you are not moping after someone who doesn't seem all that interested in you. It's marvellously freeing to concentrate solelyon yourself and your own well being.

I think your confidence and self-esteem will improve when you're rid of someone who puts you down and makes you feel unwanted, not by taking medication.