What do I do and how do I do it?

[youdontknow]

I need to leave my pertner. We fight, we fight physically, and I need to get out. Preferably this week. Where can I go? I really don't want to go to a hostel, they are not nice places, and I would be happier here with the occasional fight and so would the kids. So, no hostel. Do I hacve any other options, or do I have to find a place privately?

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Sorry for you

how's money? do you have enough to rent somewhere?

YDK, How many dc do you have and how old are they?

please contact REFUGE or WOMENS AID.
the refuge's are not horrid at all (i know as i have lived in one for 6 months) and i acan assure you that no, your kids would not rather put up with physical fighting.

simply cal the womans aid number 0808 2000 247

and they will be able to talk you throgh the process of leaving, what you need to gather together and how to leave safely.

No one wants to go to a refuge but they are designed to be as homely sa they can. there will also be staff who you can talk with and councellers if you wish to speak to them.

The only other way wouldbe to stay with freinds and then register as homeless with the local council. theywil then asses you and tbh if you claim you are homeless because of violance they will only reffer you to a hostel anyway...a much more disgusting one than the refuge's...until they have a property available....this can take up to 3 years in some area's.

If I were you, I would definitely phone womans aid & see what they suggest.

Do you have any friends/family that you could stay with?

youdontknow-are you still around?
Are you ok?

As someone else asked do you have any family or friends who could help you out at the moment?

You could go to your local CAB and ask their advice.

If your dp has been violent or has put you in fear of violence, you can get an injunction against him under part IV of the Family Law Act. It's usually in two parts, a nonmolestation order banning him from hitting, threatening or harrassing you, which can be made without notice to him, followed swiftly by an occupation order ordering him out of the house and, in some cases, to carry on paying the mortgage/bills. You need to get a solicitor. An injunction is most likely to be granted if you apply on an emergency basis - how long since your last fight?

To find a local family law specialist try www.resolution.org. Expect to pay £150 per hour (about £1k for an injunction), or if you're on a low income, you'll get public funding. I wouldn't move out if I were you. Remember also that if you get hit on, say, a Saturday night, the police will arrest your partner and bail him for later in the week. In that time, there'll be bail conditions saying he can't go near you or the house, and that will give you time to get an injunction. Why should you have to leave?