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Domestic violence - where do people get help?

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Hadeda · 29/09/2014 10:21

This is not for me, but for a friend of mine. (Actually, she is my nanny but I know her very well.) Her DH came home last night very drunk and threatened her and her DS (2). She phoned the police and they arrested her DH.
She rang me this morning and is obviously distraught. I'm seeing her later on, and I didn't want to push her for lots of details on the phone as she was really really upset.
Given the police have been involved she may have lots of info on where she can get help already. But I wonder if anyone here can tell me what the best places are? I know of Women's Aid (friend of mine who got divorced relied heavily on them). Are there any other groups/centres that she should think about? We are in south London.

I got such a shock when she phoned this morning. It came completely out the blue. He can't come near them for now given he's in custody, but I don't know how she's going to get through the day wondering what happens next. I asked her if she wanted to stay home today but she said she would rather come to work and that spending the afternoon with the children would be better than being at home and worrying. I don't yet know if she wants to leave him or try to make it work. I'd just like to be able to give her some info if she wants it, as she sounded like she's just too upset (understandably!) to be looking into it herself.

Thanks in advance...

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LEMmingaround · 29/09/2014 10:22

Women's aid will be able to help.

hellsbellsmelons · 29/09/2014 10:52

Womens Aid, the police DV unit and Social Services.
They can all help to keep him away from her and the DC.
You're being a good friend.
Be there to listen and help where you can.
Unfortunately, women tend to take a few attempts to completely leave these situations.

Hadeda · 29/09/2014 14:40

Thanks both very much. I'll make a note of these, and see how she is tonight. I don't want to be all pushy given how she's already feeling, but if I can help I will. Even if it's just by making tea...

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