Red flag bingo for daters!

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Recently dated a guy for around a month, knew it wasn't going to last though after a stressful road rage incident!
He was driving and got cut up by another car at traffic lights, cue big strop and at next traffic lights pulls up next to them and puts window on my side down ready to shout abuse at the other driver. I quickly tell him to not do that as I was stuck in the middle and didn't like it. Luckily he listened and refrained but was clearly still raging about it. He was I had thought quite mild mannered, this showed another side to him I really didn't like. We are both in our 40s btw so he isn't a young boy racer. I did tell him it didn't impress me at all but it was the last straw. Shame in some ways as he was incredibly good with his hands ;-)
What other red flags have been spotted in the dating world?

A massive red flag for me is when all his exes are "pyschos" or "crazy bitches." Just no.

Totally agree with that cat kisser. Or they have a string of exs behind them which all finished for stupid reasons. That shows to me a man is fickle and gets bored easily never a good sign.

or all exes were cheaters and/or controlling.

A couple of red flags for me were

1. Texting me (really) dirty jokes only about 1week into the "relationship" which I felt uncomfortable about.
2. Avoided inviting me over to his house for dinner, and saying it was because he didn't want his sons to see a string of different women. Rightee-ho so I must have been one of that string of women, niiiiice.
3. Constant feeling of cat-and-mouse - started with him texting me straight after our first date, did I tick all the boxes? How did I feel about him? Eventually after a few weeks, when I did become more open, he then ran a mile and didnt contact me, but when I left it, he was back again, saying sorry, it was just he had never felt like this before, it scared him yada yada.

They don't call it "the script" for nothing....

When my now-DP came along after that, I realise how many red flags there had been!

I didnt like the sound of your road-ragey date there bank he sounded awful, and at his age!

Had a first date with a guy (co-worker) who was very rude to our waitress. I knew he had potential to be an abuser based on the treatment of the waitress. That was our one and only date.

He later dated and married another co-worker and then shock of all shocks he started beating her.

Asking for an old bra that you dont wear anymore on the first date.

Showing an aversion to condoms.
Doesnt want you to go back to his house.
Asking for bra AGAIN during a phone conversation.
Saying that you are supposed to text him.
Condom thing is a deal breaker.........no condom no nookie!

Asking for an old bra? On the first date? That's not a red flag that's just bloody weird!!!

The bra thing is weird and def a red flag! I think it's the lack of consistency in someone that makes me suspicious, if they blow hot and cold and suddenly change like with the road rage thing or being nasty to a waitress.
Having read lots of threads on here I feel a lot more confident of not being manipulated or intimidated but I also feel sad at how many potential abusers and actual abusers there are out there.

I also feel sad at how many potential abusers and actual abusers there are out there.

Same here. I have decided to stay single now. I don't see myself in a relationship again, to be honest.

Other red flags - anything that makes you feel like you want to start a thread on here asking if this is ok or whether you're over reacting...

My red flags (some may be considered unreasonable but my experience proves otherwise):

-Blames exes for relationship breakdown with no accountability for themselves.
-Declaring his love for me a few weeks after knowing me
-Moving too fast; Wants me to move in after a few dates.
-Criticises other women while indirectly criticising me. "I don't like when women dresses like that, but yeah.. it looks nice on you"
-Lazy attitude to life
-Asking me if I can cook as if to check if I am capable of being their chef for life.
-Likes dodging train fares and sees it as being "a laugh".or "cool isn't it?"
-apron strings fully attached to their parents (wallet and/or purse)
-Negative outlook on everything; "the world hates me!" attitude
-"The world owes me attitude"
-Racist.
-Misogyny or chauvinism under played by using jokes "it's a joke"
-Always running back to his parents to bail him out.
-First silent treatment/stonewalling. No thanks!
-Doesn't take any responsibility for the state of their life or current circumstances. it is ALWAYS someone else's fault.
-Exaggerater.
-Fantasist
-Disrespectful towards parents and/or siblings.
-Unhealthy Jealous attitude; you can tell from the beginning by the way they talk about people. "my brother only has his nice house, flash car and money because he was the favourite. if mum and dad spent more money on me if have all that." never mind having had EQUAL opportunities. again no accountability
-Fickle.
-very clingy and/or needy from the get go. You must reply to their text straight away or else you're accused of 'cheating' or 'talking to other guys'
-Telling you that they have many girls who fight over them.
-Reminding you that they chose you over all these other women. Lucky me! I better behave myself.
-Telling you that you can do better than your current friendship group.
-"Helping you be a better person" by correction "I love you and only want the best"

• Taking you out on shopping sprees and choosing the clothes he thinks "would look great on you" and later throwing away the clothes you "don't need" "these don't reflect your personality"

-overly keen interest in knowing your deepest and darkest to prove his love and commitment towards you. "See, even though xyz happened, I still love you and want to be with you" He will use it against you in the future. -Blames females for his inability to control himself. "She forced me". again. no accountability for his actions.

I could go on and on ...

I understand. I see it as a red flag when they only ever mention the wrongs all their exes did but paint themselves in a good light.

I'd better divorce the wife then as whilst on the phone to me she often has plenty to say to fellow motorists about their driving abilities.. Red flag, red flag..

Claimed he's been tricked into fathering two of his three children. Gosh - his genes must be really special

I should add by two different women!