i dont want to be married any more

[gummygumdrops]

what the hell do i do?
i'm a sahm, husband is the wage earner. we have 3 kids. have a mortgaged home. between us we have no one that one of us can go to stay with.
i just don't want to be with him.
i've no energy for it any more.
i'm fed up with feeling like the maid.
i don't enjoy the sex.
some how he seems to think that i'm stupid. talks down to me. has no time for me.
weve been married 10 years, but i cant even think of a reason id want to do another 10.
what do i do?

Reading your post, the question that sprung to mind was, "Do you have any picture of the life you do want?"

You need to see a solicitor. You may well be allowed to stay in the family home until the children reach a certain age.

Getting a job or retraining in another career would also be useful.

"what do i do?"

a] Start a divorce now

b] Get working on your own life, then divorce once you're up and running.

Depends on how intolerable the current situation is.

Go and speak to a solicitor and find out your rights, it will be possible and you can have a happier life :)

How old is the youngest child and how long have you felt like this? Had anything brought it to a head after 10 years?

Going through a similar thing. Have u like me for any reason missed out on that 'fun' time between leaving school and getting married.this leaves me sometimes feeling resentful but i have to come to terms that i needed surgery during that time. Can u get out and do volunteering or some sort of evening course it may help you feeling less of a maid! Is anything else going on you feel you can share on here?...

Maybe if you were able to get out sometime you would not feel like leaving your DH? I don't know if that would work for you or whether the issues run deeper but it must be horrible feeling like a maid all the time.

Big hug