hi there. This is my first ever post, and I guess I feel it's because I simply don't know what to do! I have been friends with 's' for 10 years or so, and our chaps are also best friends. We both have boys that are the same age and have been through primary school together. They now attend the same high school. We do everything together as a group, holidays, occasions, weekly game nights etc. But recently our boys have started to drift apart and squabble a lot. Occasionally they have had physical altercations which we always nipped in the bud together and made them apologise etc. This has started to make things a bit awkward in terms of us all spending time together as the boys are not always thrilled to see each other! But we managed to work our friendship round this. Then, last week, my son was being a bit daft and hurt 's' son at school. I text my friend to tell her I was aware of this and would be dealing with my son and apologised. I heard nothing back. I told my son to find 's' son at school the following day to apologise, which he did, but the response he got was ' go away my mum said I don't ever need to speak to you again if I don't want'. So my son attempted again twice later on to be told to shut up and go away. He gave up. I texted my friend to test the water and to say my son had wanted to apologise and I was met with some quite unfriendly responses. Things such as " im busy and your not listening", "not got time for dealing with your petty crap" and she even confirmed " I told my son if he didn't want to speak to your son again that was fine and to tell your son that". I called school that week to see how my son was getting on ( he has special needs) and they read me the transcript from the day the incident took place. It said 's' son stated to teacher he had an issue with my son, as does his mother! I was really upset that my friend had felt this way but hadn't spoken with me about it. I have not told my friend that school disclosed this as it would only cause more trouble. I have sent general texts and she will text me back but sort of one word answers or replies that lend themselves to someone giving you the brush off. If I text to offer to do something together, it is politely declined. If I ring, no one answers. My son to be fair doesn't seem bothered that he has lost a friendship. But I worry there could be animosity at school between them, and they could end up scrapping or whatever. And as for me, I'm thinking about holidays we have booked together and parties we were all meant to be attending together. I'm a worrier as it is, and I have a constant pang of anxiety and worry about all this. We are also really friendly with each other's families and I know she saw my mum the other day, who said she was in high spirits and really friendly which indicates even more it's just me that she's got the problem with. I tend to only have a select few immediate close friends, and she was my closest. I've been at work all week but aside from that, have hardly spoken to anyone, as I would always chat to 's' about my day/week and likewise. But in the same breath I'm equally worried for my son! Any advice would be greatly welcome. It's been a god dam awful week 