Him: has to be told to do things, both at home and at work (our own business). For example, has to be told repeatedly both cars needs servicing (I don't drive) and then I am the one who books the bloody service and although he doesn't say anything (no arguing but no thanks either) gives me the feeling the thinks I'm creating an inconvenience for him as he has to take the cars. And has to be told (again repeatedly) he needs to let the one of the managers know we won't have the artwork ready in time - he leaves it until an hour before he is expecting it, when I tell him again, he does it, but sighs as if again, it's a great inconvenience and says "please, I was going to do it in my own time!". My friend said "just let him screw up", but I can't because it's my business too and we need the car(s) for both work and home. I know these are just silly examples but I'm just scratching the surface really. It's so bloody frustrating - I came to terms with the fact that I have to tell him what to do all the time, I accept that these are his limitations, but at least I expect a bit of gratitude, is that too much? The worst bit is that most of the time he kicks off and accuses me of nagging him, "going on and on" and the most infuriating one, "starting an argument". Basically I got a choice between not bringing anything up and pretending all is rosy or tackle things that need doing and "starting an argument". Later, he knows he's in the wrong and tries to act like nothing happened, being all lovey dovey. I don't know if I'm explaining this properly, I'm too bloody fuming.
Me: I admit I am a bit control freak-ish but I can't stop thinking most if it it's because I'm living with him. I've been known to call him thick, stupid etc. when he can't understand the urgency/priority/importance of things. I know that's bad, awful in fact, but he drives me up the wall.
I'm trying not to drip feed but I don't even know where to start. I can feel the rage building.