bf = best friend in this post :)
My social circle is full of really kind, nice and generally lovely people... apart from this one girl (i say girl but we're all 30+) who, on every single night out anywhere ever, will cause drama. She will usually end up leaving any social occasion in a huff, storming off in some kind of dramatic exit. Everyone is usually happier when she leaves or doesn't come out at all. However she says she is depressed, she says she's mentally ill, etc... as a way of justifying this behaviour. Personally I think she is mostly a huge narcissist who may or may not have some elements of depression. She actually displays all the classic signs of narcissistic personality disorder.
So anyway, cut to last night, she had arranged a night out on facebook but 'forgot' to invite me. One of my other friends invited me instead, via text. I was fine with this and thought it may well have been a genuine error as she's never done it before. We are not close friends, we are very different people and to be perfectly honest, I've never really liked her. She's the most miserable, negative person I've met in my entire life and she constantly puts other people down to make herself feel better. You know the type who take photos of people in the street/on the bus/train and then posts it on facebook because they're wearing something she deems to be unattractive. Yeah...
Anyway last night a few of us had been in the pub and were on our way to a club to meet said girl and en route one of our other friends (who was very drunk) was crying about her unrequited love for this guy (this happens a lot!). Outside the club she drunkenly fell over and lost her glasses, but none of us noticed, she herself didn't even notice until we were inside the club. So me and one of my best friends were fairly oblivious to her plight of her losing her glasses. Said girl who is already in the club asks our friend what's up and she says 'I've lost my glasses.' So she thinks that she's been crying about her glasses when in fact she had been crying for ages before that about this guy. She then sees me and my bf standing in a different part of the club talking and laughing about something and then asks us what was up with our other friend, to which we replied something along the lines of 'oh it's just the usual guy stuff and i think she said something about losing her glasses'. So said girl then helps her find her glasses - fair play to her - we responded in a 'oh you've found them, great!' kind of way and thought that was that.
Alas it was not. I casually asked said girl about 5 mins later if she was having a good night, yanno, making polite conversation and stuff, and she turns round and starts having a massive go at me because we weren't concerned enough for our friend having lost her glasses and says that we were laughing at her and picking on her (we were doing nothing of the sort). I didn't expect confrontation and I certainly don't stand for being spoken to in such an aggressive way so I tried to reason with her but she just carried on ranting and raving in my face so I walked away and found my bf and was just about to tell her what happened when said girl comes up and starts having an even bigger go at my bf, squaring up to her and shouting and swearing in her face, blaming the two of us for our other friend being upset and being all up on her high horse because she happened to do a good thing (for a change) and help the girl find her glasses. My bf even backed away from her as she was getting right close in to her face, and as she backed off said girl just moved forward right in to her face again. I actually thought she was going to hit my bf but thankfully we picked up our coats and bags before it got to that and we made off to leave.
By this point our other friend had gone to the bar as she didn't know what the hell was going on, so me and my bf decided to go check and see if she was ok before we left, but while we were talking to her we see said girl doing her usual storming out in a huff thing without bothering to look for our friend who she had been so vehemently 'sticking up for'. Me and my bf then stayed in club and looked after our very drunk emotional friend and had a nice time for an hour or so before getting her in to a taxi with us and making sure she got home ok.
Now my problem is what to do about it. I rarely feel compelled to say anything in these kinds of situations but it was so out of order and uncalled for that I feel like I should. Said girl was on the phone to our other friend (who doesn't remember much and wants to stay out of it) early in the morning trying to justify her actions. My bf has been texting said girl, trying to reason with her and basically saying that getting all up in her face like that was out of order and that she wants an apology otherwise they can't be friends. Said girl will not apologise and keeps saying 'but you were being mean' and trying to lay blame on us. I want to message her to tell her exactly what I think about her aggressive behaviour and to try and reason with her but will I be wasting my breath? I really don't think me and my bf did anything wrong at all, at a push maybe we should have helped her look for her glasses but she didn't even seem that arsed about them herself and she wasn't making a great deal of sense at that point...
It has been suggested that said girl is jealous of mine and bf's friendship, which would explain her not inviting me out... good lord, I feel like I'm in high school again!! I hate all this drama, I find it so unnecessary... Why would she even react in such an aggressive manner?! Surely we are all adults and can have a normal conversation about what was going on?? I want to make this girl see how ridiculous she is being but is it even possible?! Thank you for reading this far, it feels good to vent!!