is it possible to separate and live in same house

[yougotafriend]

When one person doesn't want to separate? Or would it be better for the person who wants out to move out?

No. Disastrous. Someone needs to move out.

We tried it and it was horrible. STBX moved on emotionally much quicker and had a new partner within weeks of deciding he wanted out of the marriage - he went every other week to spend time with her and it killed me. I was trying to turn myself into a stepford wife, convinced that he'd change his mind. I couldn't truly relax and was in pieces, trying to hold it together in front of the kids.

He moved out 2 days ago (after 6 months) and already i'm better - not great, but on my way.

I knew some people who tried this. They divorced during the credit crunch, the husband was declared bankrupt, the wife was part time on minimum wage. Neither could afford to move out of the marital home, but housing benefit paid to keep them where they were for the initial period.

Disaster. It made them hate each other even more and was a bad atmosphere for the children.

Eventually the husband did move out. The wife and children stayed put and all seem much happier now.

Don't do it. Just don't.

Thanks, I thought it'd be a road to hell but wondered if that was just me not willing to try. Estate agents it is tomorrow then.....