Ex cut dd's hair off

[Thebluedog]

I know in the grand scheme of things it's not important and others are having a far far worse time but I just need to rant!

I'm soooo fucking angry. My ex has taken my dd's for a hair cut a few times. Last time I asked him not to have the youngest (2.5) dd's fringe cut. She's got the loveliest, curliest bouncy hair but it has just been growing outwards in a comical way. Anyway it's finally getting some length in it and looks lovely, we even managed to tie it a back on Friday, including the fringe. She was so happy

She's just come back from a day with him and it's all been cut off inc the fringe, because of the curls it's now halfway up her forehead

I know she doesn't care at her age, and it will grow back but I could cry.. She looks like a little boy..

it's only hair. Why do you get to choose how she has her hair? maybe her hair was all ratty and unhealthy. maybe she wanted it cut. maybe he did. It is not only your choice.

It is obvious that he did it on purpose because you said not too. I would be cleverer than him. Tell him not to buy any shoes, trainers, books, pyjamas as she has enough . Playing games is childish but when you have a wanker for your child's father you might as well get something out of him.

Fiddler seems like they were looking for an excuse or took it PDQ when one presented itself. Is the wife pregnant yet? .

DSDs mum went mad when we had a fringe cut into DSDs hair. Proper "It's assault, I'll call the police, I'll stop contact" etc - even though DSD wanted it done, asked us to get it done, asked me to do it, oh and of course DH (with as much PR as his ex) agreed for it to be done.

She got her own back though. At our wedding DSD was a bridesmaid. We didn't have time enough to get her a haircut/trim before the day so asked DSD mum to get it done. Of course she didn't - and you can't see DSDs eyes in a single one of the wedding photos. It doesn't bother us, but it upsets DSD quite a bit (to the extent that she turns displayed photos around whenever she visits).

Hair should be up to the child as much as poss, but when child is too young then both parents should have the 'right' to get haircuts if needed.

I'm sorry you don't like your DDs hair OP. I hope it grows back soon.

Assault? Abuse? I don't think so...

Though not on for ex to do this

So hard isn't it. My ex had his girls one weekend, his eldest took a chunk out of her fringe.... It really needed sorting. I got her dad to phone her mum, send a pic and she agreed. So, we took her to the hair dressers, on the way she asked if she could have a bob.

She loved putting her hair up etc, I immediately worried she wouldn't be able to do this any more. Another phone call to her mum, agreed and her Dad took her in.

Her little face when she saw it, I'll never forget, she looked mortified. But put a smile on and sent a photo to her mum. We spent the rest of the weekend with clips, hair bands etc experimenting how she could do her hair....two years down the line and she's not gone near scissors again!

I'd be fuming if he took our dd now, if it needed it or not, I'd want to be there! He wouldn't do it if we were together, I can't imagine why he would want to now. Op, you have my sympathy, and I hope you and dd can find a positive and focus on that