Most of the fit men want 25-35.

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I'm 36. I feel over the hill on the online dating scene!

What age of men are you looking for? I'm 30 and would like to meet a man maybe 35-45 but all the non weird ones seem to be taken. I am definitely noticing though, more men looking for women a lot younger than them. Ah well!

What do you mean by 'fit'?

Did you mean to start two threads on this?

Why the need for 2 threads in this? You were getting good responses in the other one.

You sound just as shallow T.B.P.H. Ok looks do come into it, of course there has to be attraction but it's not the most important thing. A good personality beats good looks everytime. I always find people that are too nice looking have no charactor or personality and feel like they're doing you a favor for letting you breathe the same air as them.

Is 'fit' a typo for 'shit'?

If so YANBU

Amazing sexual chemistry doesnt always happen just because someone is deemed to be conventionally attractive.

Sexual chemistry is about so much more than looks. Which is why a photo on a dating site would do fuck all for me.

Ive had sexual chemistry and this is no replacement for it believe me.

Exactly, Darkest! One shared meaningful look can turn someone you barely noticed into someone you HAVE to get to know better!

YY Cat an acquaintance i bumped into earlier this week kept on asking if the man who asked me out recently (long story) was good looking She asked me that 3 times.

IMO if thats all someone even considers in that situation then they have clearly never experienced sexual chemistry.

Absolutely!
My early twenties were wasted on trying to pull the "fit" guys and ignoring the ones who didn't fit that mould. Only now have I begun to appreciate that chemistry is what it's all about. It's like re-learning sex!

ilive that is a very mean-spirited false dichotomy that you present. It is perfectly possible to be both attractive and a nice person.

Careful with that attitude, you sound very bitter.

Chemist cannot be felt over sox IMO

OP, exactly how much of your life do you devote to online dating and finding the perfect fit man ?

Chemistry defo more important than looks have a friend thats similar every man that likes her and treats her well is not her 'type.' She will find it hard meeting the right one with that attitude.

Chemistry cannot be found over the internet. Online dating relies on whether you and the man find eachothers photo mutually attractive

This is mostly why online dating is so difficult. You will never replicate an 'Our eyes met over a crowded room' scenario

I am 49 eeek and def don't feel over the hill, I get contacted by men aged 21 -55.

Chemistry and personality is what keeps a relationship going. There has to be an initial attraction to start the whole thing off. Which is why many of us can have very close friends but which never ever became anything else. They ticked the chemistry and personality box but we just didn't fancy them (or vice versa).

It's not about being shallow or superficial. Admittedly, we can sometimes find someone who is not normally our type somehow hugely attractive but that's rare. Online dating isn't really therefore any more or less shallow than real life. More problematic, possibly.

But OP has also posted in Mental Health on this topic in the sense that she thinks people like her with bipolar can't do well with dating. So I think there is a lot more going on.