Do the grandparents of your DC remember their birthdays?

[McBear]

On their own accord?

Both DP and I have separated parents. Some have partners, some don't. We also live between 1 hour 1.5 hours away from them.

DDs 3rd birthday is Monday. My DF and DPs DM are the most involved if say. My DF regularly comes to see DD and had planned an amazing holiday around her birthday so as to not miss out. DPs DM has arranged her shift so she can spend the day with us and will spoil DD with lots of carefully thought out gifts.

My DM thought her birthday was a week earlier and asked what we wanted to do and what she wanted (in a way that was literally, you do all the thinking and I'll buy it but make sure it's cheap). DPs DF rarely sees her and almost organises meets where we would need a babysitter unless we remind him he'd prob want to see his only grandchild and where we go she goes. He's text asking if he can come see her (which is great and more than I thought) but again got the day wrong.

Am I expecting too much? Are other peoples parents like this?

I understand she's our DD and no one is going to be as wrapped up in her as we are but they should at least remember her birthday. (In three years my DM has only got her one birthday present and no Xmas presents)

What is your mother like in other situations? She could be a thoughtless, selfish cow or a loving scatterbrain?

Two out of three isn't bad

It's not worth bashing yoru head against a wall. I've learnt the hard way. Enjoy your dd with those who enjoy her too. Sod the others.

I've posted this twice

Seems to be that she's a selfish scatterbrain haha!

I found GPs remembered DC1's bday, sometimes remembered DC2's bday, but DC3's was a lost cause.

I would just remind them before hand. And if they forget let DD know how forgetful they are once she is older, otherwise it is too stressful for you to keep covering for them.

My parents only has one grand child so would be hard for them to forget. My MIL has 11 and she needs reminding.... I love her to bits though an she has been more of a mother to me than my own mother has.

I don't have DC but have DNs and no, their grandparents do not forget their birthdays! I think different levels of involvement are probably 'normal' and vary, but in our family grandparents, uncles, aunts all do Christmas and birthdays. I would feel terrible if I ever forgot, unless very ill or unable to remember.