My DSis is 45. She is single. She is internet dating on and off. She is waiting for Mr Right to come and whisk her away, marry her, look after her and to have babies with. She talks about the fact her GP says her body is in pretty good nick and there is no reason why she could not still be fertile.
She has had one long term relationship in her twenties. Spent her thirties on and off with a married man (who she knew was not going to settle down with her, even though he did, during this period leave his wife and get someone else pregnant).
She met one person through on-line dating - it lasted a year. This ended 18months or so ago.
She is vaguely dabbling in on-line dating again now. But is being very, very strict on who she will bother seeing. Perfect fingers, teeth, smile, accent, grammar, location etc etc. I have never on-line dated so I am guessing some of this is very wise. But I am not sure about the statistics of the whole game. Will she meet her Mr Right if they are all Mr Wrong before she even talks to them.
I find it heartbreaking to hear her. Particularly the comments about the children she will have (I have asked if she would do it alone - no - she wants to be a couple/married). I worry about her - about how she will be if she comes to the point where she realises she may need to change her view of her future.
However heartbreaking for me though, I need to do the best for her.
What should I do? Should I just nod and smile when she talks about the married with babies thing? It may happen. I would love it to happen for her. Or should I be trying to get her to face some kind of reality?
Tbh I have tried to broach the subject in the past. A gentle "what if it doesn't happen?" It did not go down well. Though I kind of guess it may not if someone is pissing on your dreams. Especially if that someone is me - a sister who was the golden child, who has the husband/2.4 kids etc.
So, sorry so long. Let her be or try to talk to her?