Exh, child maintenance, need advice please

[catkin14]

My EA exh is a nigh earner and has to pay a large amount of maintenance for our DC who is 15.
Although since we split nearly 2 years ago he has had very little to do with DC, he feels he can dictate to me what maintenance should be spent on and says DC should have a monthly allowance of £150 to spend as he likes..!!
Can he do this? can he say how money should be spent?

I have to pay for every single thing for DC, clothes, shoes, trips, food, school stuff, everything. Never once has he mentioned that he would like to be involved in DCs life, just about the money.
DC has said he knows if we were still together his DF wouldnt allow him any money.
Exh is also saying he can reduce amount that is on court order as he has to take a drop in salary even though the amount is written as a figure not a percentage of his salary.

Please help? I want to email back to him and ask why he is getting involved when he has shown no interest in him before, I feel so angry that even now he is trying to control me.

Just ignore him. Don't respond at all. He can't dictate what you spend the money on. If you need it to pay the mortgage to keep a roof over his child's head then that's fine.

Don't respond to him. If he starts paying you less then take the necessary legal steps to ensure he pays you what he owes you.

I dont have a mortgage but earn very little myself even though I work full time.
I want so much to go back to him and ask how dare he say what I must spend money on when he has shown no interest in his DC at all.
Everything that DC needs he has and if he wants anything he just asks me for it, I take him on holiday, to music gigs, feed him and so on and yes this is what I use maintenance money for. Is this wrong?

It is none of his business what you spend the maintenance on and he had no legal right to tell you. He's trying to continue his EA.
IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE.

Don't respond. Maintenance is supposed to be spent on provising a home, food, heating etc for children. It's not their spending money.

Ignore the Ex.