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Soooo....date tonight, but...help!

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wallaby73 · 25/09/2014 17:06

have a date arranged tonight, chatting over email for a while, had a couple of short messages today...but have a gut feeling he may not show.....of course he could have been in meetings. Due to meet at 7.30, would have to leave 7.15.....what are the rules here? If hear nothing, go anyway? Thoughts?? Gah!

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/09/2014 17:53

I can hear you snapping on the latex gloves from here!

Bakeoffcakes · 26/09/2014 17:58

Oh how exciting. So glad you had a nice evening.

Darkesteyes · 26/09/2014 21:34

Blimey a bloke who actually told the truth

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wallaby73 · 27/09/2014 08:28

Oo yes BOP, snapping on the metaphorical gloves (bit soon for the real ones if he has a latex fetish.....) and possibly lab coat?! Seeing him tomorrow for food, i said if he even suggests pizza hut or similar, a beautiful thing could be over before it's begun....so he suggested chippy chips and vimto in the park?!

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McBear · 27/09/2014 08:43

Well that sounds bloody perfect to me but I am cheap what are you going to do?

BitOutOfPractice · 27/09/2014 11:05

That's my dream date! Maybe a can of chip shop shandy to be a bit classy

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wallaby73 · 28/09/2014 05:42

He called me yesterday evening just wanting a chat, but i had my 9 yr old DS lying on me and 13 yr old DD sprawled nearby (they'd been lovely all day, we were all tired, i ordered duvets to be brought downstairs to nest in!) so really, not appropriate to chat. I think he was brave to make the call tbh. So i'd suggested food, and as we have previously talked a lot about film, he suggested watching a particular film together, but i don't want to go to his house....yet. I'm pretty sure he doesn't have any ulterior motive, he seems straight and decent. But i'm just not ready or up for an evening date in his home.....? How to explain without him being offended? Well i'm 40 now and have spent too many years pussyfooting around, so i guess i'll just bloody say so. He'll have to understand. So there!??

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ArsenicFaceCream · 28/09/2014 05:45

He shouldn't be offended. You don't know him yet. It's just basic safety.

Milllie · 28/09/2014 08:06

He needs to take you out alot more before you get personal. Asking you to go to his house sounds like he just wants sex, doesn't it?

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wallaby73 · 28/09/2014 08:27

Millie; i'm not going to deny that, i would be saddenned if were true as i'm absolutely not up for that yet; he doesn't strike me as a pushy rush me into bed type, if i get that impression it's an immediate dispatch situation!

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Milllie · 28/09/2014 14:47

Well just tell him that you are not ready to go to each others houses yet and would like to get to know each other for awhile.

Milllie · 28/09/2014 14:48

His reaction will tell you what you need to know. He should arrange a proper date straight away if he is keen. If he is not then you may not hear from him again .

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