We've had a rocky time over the past 6 months, I've been off work with depression and was having crisis team visits daily at one point.
Our relationship has suffered, partly because of my mental health issues but partly because I don't trust DH. I found out he had been exchanging flirty texts with a girl at work. I later found out that he had taken our DD out with this girl for coffee one day while I was visiting relatives. There would be nothing wrong if it was just friendship but he went to great lengths to hide it from me and only owned up once the girl from work dropped him in it by posting on his FB about how nice it was to see him.
I don't mind him having female friends, in fact he has lots of female friends, always has since we got together. It's the fact that she is the only one he flirts with, the only one he "walks home" from nights out at 4am and the only one he isn't honest about seeing. He even text her on our wedding night idiot didn't realise that his iPhone is synced to the iPad so the messages came up on there
Anyway, I now think he is planning to leave. There are lots of whispered phone calls going on to his best friend and a card arrived with the message "just let me know when and I will do whatever you need." It's all very cryptic.
I don't feel like I can ask him straight out (I think he would deny it anyway) but I need to know what to do to prepare for the worst. I'm on my knees financially having no been able to work (I am on SSP so have used my savings and even got into debt to pay bills). Fortunately I start back at work next week but I only work PT (3 days per week) so if he does leave I could cover mortgage, council tax and tests about it.