Calm the fuck down or enjoy the ride?

[Chuckthefucklebrothers]

...so to speak!

I 'met' a man online about a month ago, we've been texting each other every day since. I really, really like him. We spoke on the phone then met up a week ago. I was massively nervous & worried there wouldn't be any chemistry irl. Turned out oh my god! there was chemistry I want to jump his bones

I am six months out of a 12 year relationship - until a month ago I was adamant that I would stay single for the rest of my days... But I can't stop thinking about him, he's fucking awesome! Not perfect, but could just be perfect for me. The whole emotional rollercoaster thing scares the life out of me though. Trying to keep busy & not obsess but I feel like a lovesick teenager...

Thanks - Telltale, that's what scares me. But as Pippin says, it'd hurt whenever it ended. Better to have loved & to have lost and all that... Bloody scary though!

However, nobody will be moving in with anybody. Ever! That's the one thing I have learnt

I should point out that if he's a player, he's a very dedicated one - it's a 6 hr round trip from his to mine.

Cheers Round, will keep you posted!

So, when you say "he is perfect for me" perfect for what? Long term long distance relationship? Lots of problems potentially with trust, organisation, so little time...

Yes Mini, that's pretty much it - although he has a lot more going for him than just being far away & willing to travel! Obviously it would be easier if he lived a bit closer but actually, I don't want someone who's going to be around all the time getting under my feet & generally getting on my nerves. I just want the good bits - is that too much to ask?!

Go for it. When you are ready you are ready. I didn't even have a date for 6 years after my ex. Then my first date was with my dp - he was naked within 5 minutes and we were DTD within 10 mins. Awesome. Seriously what's to regret. If you like him you can always go back to being friends if it doesn't work in the sack.

Blimey Wally - I like your style!

Oh my gosh, it's going to be a long week!

The 'calm the fuck down' option isn't working out too well for me btw, so just going with it. I may well be horribly disappointed or have my heart smashed to bits in the future but I'll worry about that later! Life has been beige for too long...

Good lord Chuckle go and have fun

I'm 16months out of a 14year relationship and after swearing I am 'done with men' for a year I recently met up with my first online date. We are six weeks in and having The. Best. Time. including the. best. sex

GO FOR IT and please update

Go for it. Have a shag and see how it goes. A shag doesn't have to = settling down.

I met my D.P last May. We went back to mine that night and dtd twice and three times the next day and we've been together ever since. We don't live together though. I like my own space.

Thank you handywoman & lighthouse! I will keep you posted
I have information which strongly suggests that hamster-like proportions will not be an issue
definitely not counting down the days or drifting about with a head full of filth

Update:

Oh.
My.
God!

How soon was it after this awesome sex that he suggested you lose weight, OP?

I'm not sure imperial, but it was about 30 seconds before I told him not to be so fucking rude & suggested that he could do with beefing up his skinny legs a bit. And I have made my peace with 9 stone - I'm not trying to get down to 8 anymore.

Have you chucked him, chuck ?

He told you that you needed to lose weight and you are 9 stone? Have you chucked him?

OMG really? He told you to lose weight?????

Really?????

How soon was it after this awesome sex that he suggested you lose weight, OP?

Where did this information come from? Did OP delete a post or have I missed something?

There's another thread called help me, I've fallen for another wrong 'un