Ex Husband copying Daughter into emails

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Hi, I'm new on here but am in need of some advice please. My ex husband has started to blind copy our 12 year old daughter into our emails. Our relationship has been very fraught as he was always used to getting his own way during our 11 year marriage. I have become much more assertive and forthcoming since he left me and I know he hates this and being told what to do. He has blind copied her into heated discussions/ arguments to do with financing a school trip she is going on. I know this because I asked her (had a sneaky suspicion as he's done this sort of thing before.) I am worried about what he says to her and my other daughter when he is with them. He has encouraged them to lie before. I have a great relationship with both my daughters. I have confronted him and tried to nip it in the bud but he won't talk to me. What can I do about it as this seems beyond my control. Any ideas would be gratefully received.

Don't say anything by e mail that you wouldn't be happy for your daughters to read.

Your dd is 12. I would delete the email account and get another one that he doesn't know the address to send her any more messages.

Hmm, sneaky. Get a new email address or block your current one from your dd 's account? Or don't email him at all? What a horrible thing to do.

Actually I wouldn't communicate with hum via email at all.

I think you need to have a sit down with your daughters and explain to them what he is doing and why he is doing it. Try not to say anything negative about him, just be open and honest. Tell them if he says anything to them about you or anything else for that matter they are welcome to come and discuss it with you in confidence, I.e you won't feed it back to him so they don't have to worry on that front.

Shameful behaviour from him.

I would no longer communicate via email. Also consider buying the book divorce poison so you can deal with what he's doing to your daughter.

You don't say who your daughter lives with, but this is really odd behaviour, and actually verging on potentially being 'psychological harm'.

A 12 year old does not need to get involved in the arguments between the parents (and I realise it's NOT you that needs telling this to).

Dear ExH,

I am aware that you have been blind cc'ing our 12 year old daughter into correspondence between the two of us.

Whilst we may not agree on many issues, we are both obliged to consider the overwhelming duty we have not to damage the children emotionally if it can be avoided. Actions such as blind cc'ing our daughter into correspondence, may well garner short-term support for your views, but it is an act of alienation of me as her parent.

I am therefore asking you to cease and desist this behaviour immediately.

Your ExWife (and jolly glad she is too

Thank you for your responses.

badbaldingballerina123 thank you for recommending divorce poison, it seems to have good reviews, so I will be getting it tomorrow!

WellWhoKnew It's well worth a try...