If you knew the relationship was supposed to end were you still upset?

[myotherusernameiswittyandgreat]

I have been unhappy for months and I've been taking it out on DP. I'm snappy, moody and don't talk to him very well.

We talked tonight and think it should end but now I'm feeling really upset. I didn't expect to feel like this when I've felt nothing for months.

Is this normal or am I making a mistake?

Just because it's difficult doesn't mean it's wrong.

Yes. I was with my first boyfriend for 7 years. We had been together from the age of 16 and the relationship had completely run it's course. We wanted different things and weren't even particularly nice to each other at the end. The break up was fairly mutual, although at my instigation if tang makes sense. I was still completely and utterly gutted. Took me months and months to get over. It's the loss of dreams, the change to your life, loss of mutual friends... It's tough.

I have to add it was still completely the right thing to do, despite the pain. We are both now married to other people and extremely happy!

Thank you, I feel the same way, the relationship has run its course. I have spent a long time with him and I'm scared of being on my own. I'm scared of doing the wrong thing.
I am devastated at the fact we will never see each other again. But I can't continue as I am

It absolutely normal to be upset and its a myth that the one ending it gets off easier. I have ended relationships in the past and been utterly distraught over it, taking many years to fully recover. I have also plunged back into unsuitable relationships, convinced that the pain I felt on splitting was a Sign that we were meant to be. In almost all cases, it isn't. It's just heathy response to an upsetting life event.

The fear of making the wrong choice thing I can understand, mostly I have stayed far too long with people because I lacked the courage of my own convictions and enough self belief to visualise life without them.
Breakups are very hard and it's okay to find it hard. I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

yes.
the relationship was horrible, he was abusive, physically, emotionally, mentally.
I wanted him out of my life.
took me 25 years to get over the break up.