Best and worst things about divorce and what is a good enough reason to get divorced in the first place?

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H and I have had the umpteenth argument and are now not speaking for the umpteenth time. Am very scared of splitting up but at what point do you decide that now is the time?

Was thinking this morning that how I am now might be the best that I can be and I have to stop thinking that things will be ok between h and I when I have done x, y and z.

In any case, if someone hasn't shown you any affection for a long time and hardly speaks to you in general then their feelings are kind of clear aren't they ?

Am wondering what people think are the best and worst things about getting divorced and what people think can justify such an enormous decision (which in my case would affect our 3 dc - 8, 10 and almost 13).

I think my thread title might be off putting sorry . Maybe I should have asked when it is ok to call things a day. Have been burying my head in the sand for a long time and still don't know what to do .

I must admit I was thrown by the title. Divorce sucks. For everyone, except possibly Solicitors. Even when things are better outside the marriage. That was the impetus for me, life could be (and should be) better for my daughters and me. It is AND it's actually better for exH too.

When you realise you would be happier on your own than with him. Sorry op I have been there too and it's crap. But you deserve to be happy and you will be again.

I think things would (in the long run and when I had got past what must be awful sadness and grief) be happier for me. Not sure that this would be the case for my dc though, who like the house we live in and having us both around . I feel totally lost.